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Dear April

Just a few weeks ago I caught my boyfriend cheating on me. I confronted him and he apologized and told me I was the only woman now in his life and he won’t see those girls or any other girl ever again. After 7 years of being in this relationship and I have to find out now? And that it has been going on for years behind my back.
I have broken up with him four times now and even had a child with my last boyfriend . Somehow or other I find myself no longer with the father of my child but back in this dumb ass relationship with my cheating ex bf.
Everytime I leave him he gets very depressed and upset, or so he makes me believe. Then once he is settled into his old seat again he starts doing the same old sneaky business which means not calling or texting unless he is at my front door and never taking me out but always going out ” by himself” and “working ” till the wee hours of the morning. What kind of boyfriend comes home at 5.30AM and gets upset if I am asleep?
I found his Facebook messenger and made a photo collage of all the girls he has slept with and sent it to his mobile phone and email . He apologized but did not go into any detail, plus his Facebook status still says he is single !
I want to break up with him but he just won’t let me . He flirts with all these other girls online and expects me to never find out.
I am one click away from sending those photos to all those other women, but I am not too sure if that would be a good idea… Please help me to do the right thing. Despite his need to have his women, he is a good man and I hope you will be able to show me a way to make him realize that what he is doing is making me feel miserable and I don’t want to ruin the relationship , but I feel like I am losing hope in him and I just don’t want to start nagging him because that’s just not cool . If you have any good advice , kindly let me know before my itchy fingers press send to that collage which will pretty much ruin his chances with any other woman he has been seeing behind my back ! Plus he tells me he needs a little time before he will change his status on Facebook from single to in a relationship with me! I give up! Seven years of my life… Wasted.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not a victim, but you write as if you are. 😥 You’re right not to waste any more of your life with a man who cheats on you over and over, so stop looking for him to change his behavior, and look in the mirror and ask yourself why you won’t change yours. 😉 You wrote that he won’t let you break up with him — c’mon. Really? I know you don’t believe that, although you want to — because then you don’t have to be responsible for your own behavior. The ball is in your court, one hundred percent. Forget about his social media status and focus on what’s important: You starting to take care of yourself and your child and not putting either one of you in a relationship with someone who treats you like this. 😉 Focus on you!

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[Jess22i1]

You are right to walk away, SPF it’s been going in for that long and says he will stop once u found out then he really is inky sorry he got caught, delete all contact info and block it and be done with him, once a cheater always a cheater

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.

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