My question……I have a male friend who was involved with a girl for 6 years (not married), she had his child, the relationship got bitter at the end, she hit him, abused him, is a hoarder, so he threw her out of house via sheriff. He had majority custody of the child. He met a wonderful woman who I thought they’d be together for a long time. The ex called him one day wanting to talk of the child’s baptism. Well, needless to say, his heart got weak and ended up going back to her, leaving the new gf high-n-dry.
He mentioned to me he HAS to do this. He is Catholic, she is not. And NO she is not pregnant (they were broke up for 5 months.) I understand the sanctity of family, but when there was abuse and he had a PFA against her, I need clarification as I am not in agreement with him. He said he is doing this for the child. But I feel he is doing it for himself because she applied for custody and he doesn’t want to be a 50/50 dad. More damage is being done because there is NO love, no family unit. Just cohabiting so he has his daughter there 24/7.
Bottom-line, he left a great woman, who had respect from him and his family, to go back to the ex, who they broke up like 25 times during their 6-year relationship, and the family does not like her. She used the child’s baptism excuse to get her foot in the door again. Family is very important to him, but she is toxic, abusive, hoarder, just plain filthy.
I care for my friend, been friends for 15+ years, however, I keep quiet with this matter because he has to learn on his own, she will NOT change, she WILL hurt him again.
Please give me your input.
