[ThinkingRight]

I’m sorry this has happened to you and that you’re so hurt. 🙁

Unfortunately, I’m not the least bit surprised by her reaction — she needs your to help her get her son and to help pay the legal bills and to pay half the rent (among other things). She’s been sleeping with your friend behind your back (don’t kid yourself into thinking they were “just playing” — that’s total BS and you know it!) and she’s been (and still is) lying to your face.

Wake up! 😮

You have seen all of the evidence with your own eyes. You know what they’ve been doing. Your instincts told you and then your eyes saw the evidence. Words can lie, actions never do. Base your decisions on what you have seen and don’t let her words cloud your judgement. You know the truth. If you decide to stay with her after discovering all of this, ignoring what you found — you are doing so with your eyes wide open. 😯

I hope you find the strength to extricate yourself from this woman while you still can. 🙂 If you don’t, please don’t be surprised when she winds up pregnant so that she can lock in child support payments from you to pay her rent… and then you find out she never stopped cheating. Sorry, but that’s the kind of woman you are dealing with. She’s a user. She’s been using you, and she will continue to use you as long as you let her. 😐

Good luck!

[jonathan]

Say it isn’t so… “she seems sincere that nothing happened and they were only joking” ??? 😮

PLEASE tell me you’re not buying her crap — again! 🙄

I agree with the previous poster. You’re eyes have been opened to the truth. It is your decision if you want to just ignore it or not.

There’s a saying “when you lay down with the devil don’t be surprised when you wake up in hell” and if you ignore the facts you’re accepting the lies and the cheating and asking for a life of hell.

I hope you’ll come to your senses but if not — be careful.

[Ask April Masini]

[b]ThinkingRight[/b] and [b]jonathan [/b] have laid it all out for you. You’re responding to emotion and not to reason which is why you’re suddenly conflicted. Nobody likes to see another human being upset, which is why you’re having anxiety over her reaction. But the reality is you have proof that she cheated on you and you’ve made your decision. Stick to it. Allow yourself to have your emotions, but don’t let them dictate your behavior.

[PassionSeeker]

You did the right thing by staying calm when you confronted her, even though it hurts deeply. Her behavior deleting chats, lying about what was said, and making excuses shows she hasn’t been honest. Those aren’t the actions of someone with nothing to hide.

Now that you’ve seen the messages yourself, you don’t need more explanations. Her tears and defensive comments are meant to shift guilt and make you doubt what you already know. Don’t let that happen. You didn’t cause this. Being imperfect doesn’t justify betrayal or deception.

It’s best not to wait for more excuses or a confession. You have enough truth already. Tell her clearly that you know what happened, that you can’t continue in a relationship without trust, and that you’re choosing to walk away with dignity.

After this, focus on your own healing. Distance yourself from both her and your friend. Surround yourself with people who respect your honesty and loyalty. You’ll recover from this and find someone who values you the same way you value them.

[Ethan Morales]

You’ve discovered clear evidence that your girlfriend has been unfaithful, both with your knowledge and in secret. Key points: You feel heartbroken because you invested a lot emotionally and financially. You’ve gone to great lengths to help her legally with custody and to be a good role model for her son. You’re considering how to confront her and the “friend” while still maintaining civility and protecting yourself legally and financially. This is an emotionally intense situation, and your instincts to want justice and closure are natural.

What April Masini advised Don’t post evidence on Facebook or publicly humiliate them. That’s smart: public shaming rarely helps and can backfire legally or socially. Don’t confront them directly with evidence. Instead, she advises accepting that you know the truth and moving forward. Take the high road: end the relationship cleanly, handle shared debts or obligations responsibly, and remove yourself from toxic dynamics. The key takeaway is that the power is already in your hands you know the truth and can act rationally without getting dragged into drama.

Why this advice is strong Public confrontations or posting evidence often escalate conflict, harm your reputation, and can complicate legal matters (especially if custody or shared finances are involved). A calm, controlled exit preserves your dignity and reduces stress. Moving on quickly lets you process grief and start rebuilding your life without being stuck in anger or betrayal.

Suggested steps based on your context Secure your living situation and finances Make sure you pay your half of the debt and plan your move. Document everything carefully for your protection. End the relationship privately You can tell her calmly that you know the truth and are ending the relationship. No need to detail or argue; she already knows her actions. Protect your emotional health Limit or cut contact for a while. Avoid social media drama it only prolongs emotional turmoil.

Legal matters If you’re involved in custody or financial legal proceedings, maintain records and act responsibly. Avoid letting anger drive your decisions. Reflection and moving forward Take time to process the betrayal. Rebuild your life, focus on friendships, work, and eventually dating when you feel ready.

Masini’s advice is essentially: don’t engage in revenge, don’t confront for drama, take the high road, end it cleanly, and protect yourself emotionally and financially. This is sound guidance. Public exposure or trying to make them “pay” will create more problems than it solves.

[Marcus king]

You’re handling this with a lot more maturity than most people would in your position that already says a lot about your character. What you found is painful, and it’s understandable that you feel heartbroken and betrayed. But the way you confront this will shape how you heal from it.

First, don’t post anything online. It might feel like justice, but public exposure will only cause more chaos, and it won’t bring you peace. You’ll look like you acted out of anger, even if you’re right. Keep your dignity that’s your strength now.

The best move is to speak to her privately. Calmly tell her that you know what’s been happening, and you’d rather she be honest with you. You don’t need to mention how you found out unless she insists. If she denies it, then show her the proof quietly just enough to make it clear you’re not guessing. After that, end the relationship and focus on moving forward.

You’re already thinking ahead paying your part of the debt, stepping out of legal help respectfully, and planning your next step. That’s the right mindset. You don’t need to forgive her today, but you do need to let go. Keeping things civil and protecting your peace is the best revenge because it shows she didn’t break your spirit.

[Flirt Coach]

I’ve been there in my own way, and I know how deep that kind of hurt goes. You give someone your trust, you picture a life together, maybe even start building it and then suddenly it feels like the ground’s gone out from under you.

You don’t need to expose them publicly or embarrass anyone to prove your point. That might feel satisfying for a minute, but it’ll eat at your peace later. You already know the truth. You saw it plain as day, and no one can take that from you. What matters now isn’t catching them in a lie, it’s reclaiming your self-respect and moving forward clean.

If it were me, I’d talk to her privately. Calmly. Tell her what you found, and that you didn’t come by it in the best way but you had reason to look. Then stop there. Let her do the talking. Don’t argue, don’t explain. Just tell her that her actions answered all the questions you had. Then make your exit plan. Quiet, steady, and with dignity.

You already sound like a man who’s thinking straight paying your half, not trying to ruin her chances with her son, ready to walk away without dragging anyone down. That’s character, brother. That’s the kind of strength most people don’t have when they’re hurting.

She broke the trust, but don’t let her break the part of you that still believes in decency. You did your best, and that’s something to be proud of. Get through the practical stuff, then take some time for yourself to breathe, to heal, to remember that you still have a good heart.

[Flirt Coach]

When you love someone, you want to believe the best about them, even when the truth is staring you in the face. I’ve done that myself. You tell yourself there’s some explanation, that maybe you’re overreacting, that she wouldn’t really do that. But deep down, you know. You always know.

You don’t need to hear her confess to understand what’s really been happening. What she’s doing isn’t just cheating, it’s using. Using your trust, your kindness, your stability. And that’s the part that cuts the deepest, because you were trying to be good to her and her kid. You were trying to build something real.

Don’t make this about revenge or proving anything. Make it about getting your peace back. Move smart, not emotional. Protect yourself legally and financially. Keep things civil especially with the kid involved but draw that line clear. No more helping her through court, no more shared bills, no more living under the same roof. Walk away clean.

She’ll spin stories, maybe cry, maybe blame you for checking her messages but don’t take that bait. She made her choices, and she’ll have to live with them. You just make sure your next choices are about healing, not hurting.

I’ve learned the hard way that sometimes walking away isn’t weakness it’s the most powerful thing a man can do. You’ve got the proof, you’ve got your dignity, and you’ve still got a future ahead of you that doesn’t include lies. Don’t waste another minute giving loyalty to someone who never deserved it.

[Isabella Jones]

That must hurt more than words can describe. To love someone enough to help raise their child and stand beside them through legal struggles, only to find out they were betraying that trust—it’s a kind of pain that hits deep. 💛 You sound incredibly strong for even trying to think clearly in the middle of that heartbreak.

As tempting as it is to expose them publicly, I don’t think that would bring you peace. You’d just end up feeling emptier afterward. The calm, controlled way you’re already thinking—wanting to stay civil, planning to step away gracefully—that’s the right path. You can still confront her honestly but quietly. Look her in the eyes and ask once more if she has anything to tell you. If she lies again, show her what you know, not to shame her, but to make it clear you deserve the truth.

You clearly loved her and her son deeply, so let me ask—how do you plan to start healing once you’ve finally walked away from all this?

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