[ThinkingRight]

I’m sorry this has happened to you and that you’re so hurt. 🙁

Unfortunately, I’m not the least bit surprised by her reaction — she needs your to help her get her son and to help pay the legal bills and to pay half the rent (among other things). She’s been sleeping with your friend behind your back (don’t kid yourself into thinking they were “just playing” — that’s total BS and you know it!) and she’s been (and still is) lying to your face.

Wake up! 😮

You have seen all of the evidence with your own eyes. You know what they’ve been doing. Your instincts told you and then your eyes saw the evidence. Words can lie, actions never do. Base your decisions on what you have seen and don’t let her words cloud your judgement. You know the truth. If you decide to stay with her after discovering all of this, ignoring what you found — you are doing so with your eyes wide open. 😯

I hope you find the strength to extricate yourself from this woman while you still can. 🙂 If you don’t, please don’t be surprised when she winds up pregnant so that she can lock in child support payments from you to pay her rent… and then you find out she never stopped cheating. Sorry, but that’s the kind of woman you are dealing with. She’s a user. She’s been using you, and she will continue to use you as long as you let her. 😐

Good luck!

[jonathan]

Say it isn’t so… “she seems sincere that nothing happened and they were only joking” ??? 😮

PLEASE tell me you’re not buying her crap — again! 🙄

I agree with the previous poster. You’re eyes have been opened to the truth. It is your decision if you want to just ignore it or not.

There’s a saying “when you lay down with the devil don’t be surprised when you wake up in hell” and if you ignore the facts you’re accepting the lies and the cheating and asking for a life of hell.

I hope you’ll come to your senses but if not — be careful.

[Ask April Masini]

[b]ThinkingRight[/b] and [b]jonathan [/b] have laid it all out for you. You’re responding to emotion and not to reason which is why you’re suddenly conflicted. Nobody likes to see another human being upset, which is why you’re having anxiety over her reaction. But the reality is you have proof that she cheated on you and you’ve made your decision. Stick to it. Allow yourself to have your emotions, but don’t let them dictate your behavior.

[PassionSeeker]

You did the right thing by staying calm when you confronted her, even though it hurts deeply. Her behavior deleting chats, lying about what was said, and making excuses shows she hasn’t been honest. Those aren’t the actions of someone with nothing to hide.

Now that you’ve seen the messages yourself, you don’t need more explanations. Her tears and defensive comments are meant to shift guilt and make you doubt what you already know. Don’t let that happen. You didn’t cause this. Being imperfect doesn’t justify betrayal or deception.

It’s best not to wait for more excuses or a confession. You have enough truth already. Tell her clearly that you know what happened, that you can’t continue in a relationship without trust, and that you’re choosing to walk away with dignity.

After this, focus on your own healing. Distance yourself from both her and your friend. Surround yourself with people who respect your honesty and loyalty. You’ll recover from this and find someone who values you the same way you value them.

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