I have this thing with a guy. We are young and in college. I go to one school, he goes to another. Back at the beginning of the summer I got the courage up to talk to him and we really hit it off. I would ask him on dates and he would just say he didn’t have any money so he would rather do something that didn’t cost anything. So we just always ended going back to my house or to the park. At my house we would just watch movies or play Beatles Rockband or nerdy dance. At the park we would go into an amphitheater and play guitar. Sometimes it was just fun and sometimes it was really romantic. He would come over every chance he got. Usually both days on the weekend before school got out but he was in so many clubs that he couldn’t do much on weekdays. Once school got out we went swimming with a group of friends. He gave me raspberries, where you blow on someone’s skin and it makes a kind of farting noise, in front of my friend that also liked him, except every time I checked to make sure she didn’t, cause she didn’t know I did, she said no. So I asked him to come over after we were done swimming and he said sure let’s watch a movie. I was like ok cool. He came over and we started the movie and started making out and then it went pretty far. We did everything. Except have sex. Same thing happened like 3 days later. He came over, we watched a movie and ended up going so far but not having sex. It happened one last time and it was the night before I got surgery. I was really druggRed the next day and I was texting him and stuff but he never texted me back. All of my friends came to visit me but everytime I asked him I got no reply. I was leaving for Hawaii in 4 days and I wanted to see him before we left because I was getting attached. He came over 2 nights before I left and told me he didn’t want to do what we were doing anymore because he didn’t want to get attached before heading our different ways. That he wasn’t looking forward to the end. I told him I wasn’t going to give up on us because I knew there was something there and he did too. He said good me either. What on earth was he talking about? I was so confused. So I texted him the night before I left and he said he didn’t want anything to do with me. He just wanted to be friends. That killed me. I was depressed while in Hawaii and so mad at him. He had broken my heart. When I came back I realized I am my own person and I should just live my life. So I got my belly button pierced, went to a million concerts, and jumped on and fell off a car (after seeing him at a party). It was a week before we left for college, a Friday night. I had a concert to go to that night and I was supposed to go with my brother. I asked him if he was ready for it the day of and he was like are you serious we have a concert tonight? I’m going to the baseball game for a birthday party. I was pretty disappointed but tried to find someone else to go with. I asked every single person in my contact list (except the guy I used to be interested in) and all of them said no. So I didn’t want to waste a $50 ticket so I texted him and asked if he would be interested in going. I hadn’t talked to him in 3 months and I was really scared of him coming. He said yea he wanted to so I got all dolled up and he came over to go. I drove and it was extremely awkward at the beginning because I was still so mad at him. But it gradually got better and we were back to being our normal nerdy selves with eachother. We got the concert a little early so we went into a nearby record store. He grabs my hand and starts slow and swing dancing with me. At the concert he introduces me to all of the people he knew, which he had never done before. He buys me a concert tshirt and a slurpee afterwards. I didn’t want to be rude so I asked him over afterwards to hang out. He said yes and wanted to watch a movie. We picked one out and he makes his move. It was exactly as before and this time we did have sex. It was all extremely romantic. He wouldn’t text me back for the next 2 days and I felt completely horrible. It was my first time and I felt like I had just given it away to someone who didn’t really care for me. I was a complete mess and finally 2 days later he texts me back and says he wanted to talk. So he came over and we did talk. We talked about everything and he said he likes me so much but doesn’t want a commitment and that he’s scared because I know he’s a dick but that I don’t care and that I like him anyway I was like ok I knew that but I still wanted to be friends and that required him texting me back. He said he would and he did for a while. Then he stopped. By then we had already left for college and I knew we were both busy and not to expect too much. He never texted me though. A week or so later he texts me and tells me that he’s sorry he hasn’t been texting me and that I mean so much to him. He asks if I want to go to a concert with him that is near my school. I said yes and so he’s coming up to see me for it. It’s on a Tuesday night so I know he’s going to need someplace to stay for the night. What should I expect? Another romantic night? That’s what I want to happen but I don’t want to deal with all of how he treats me, when I’m not with him (ignoring me and seemingly not wanting anything to do with me). He hasn’t texted me since then but sent me on Spotify a really romantic song whose lyrics relate so much to our situation. I thought maybe I was reading into it but all my friends say the same thing. I don’t know what to do. What do you think?
April Masini, your AskApril.Indielover
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