First of all, not everyone is cut out to be a step-dad and if your now ex-boyfriend knew that he didn’t want to be a step-dad or a step-dad to a teenager, it’s to his credit that he didn’t put both of you through the paces of a relationship that wasn’t right for him. I know you’re disappointed, but knowing one’s self is the key to success in a relationship and for him, he knew his deal breakers.
Second of all, it’s not fair for you to promise your teenager is going to behave a certain way. You can’t control teenagers and no matter how well you’ve raised them, their hormonal changes coupled with at least one of their parents dating, is difficult for them. Anyone who dates a single parent needs to buckle up because step-parenting a teenager can be tricky business. And if your teen feels that he or she is the reason that you’re unhappy in love, you’ve placed an unfair burden on your child.
I know you’re disappointed, but eventually you’re going to see that this is the right thing for you and your teen. You want to find someone who wants to be with you — and your child, and that that job isn’t for everyone. You will find someone. 😀 Let this guy go and move on. It’s a gift. You’ll see it eventually. 😉
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