[sacredblonde]

Okay, so I am in a new relationship with a guy, we have only been dating about 2 and a half months. I am 19 and he is almost 24. This past weekend was pretty rough for us, we had a pretty big argument on saturday that we both assumed was because of miscommunication and things I think were alright. On sunday, we had another argument in which he mentioned if we needed a break or if we needed to spend sometime away from each other. We talked things over as we usually do but he knows and I know that we were both pretty upset with things that weekend. All of a sudden on monday, he decides to tell me that he “thinks he is falling for me”. What does this mean after two arguements, is he saying it just to say it, just to keep me around, does he actually mean it? I am confused. If does actually mean it, what happens if I don’t exactly feel the same way yet or if I will?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think that once he said that you might need a break from each other, it scared him. He had a moment to think about what it would be like if you were “on break” and decided it wasn’t what he wanted, so he zoomed back in the other direction to try and do damage control. What you’re learning about him is that he’s passionate — in his anger and his desire to have you — and that he sometimes overshoots the mark (suggesting a break up and then a falling in love moment).

Don’t take everything he’s saying at face value. You’re still getting to know him — you haven’t been dating that long. But watch out for more miscommunications because if his words aren’t matching his behavior, there’s going to be more of that ahead. When one person is very passionate like he is, and has a tendency to overreact, the best match for him is someone who’s level headed and who can appreciate his intentions, but not jump off every cliff with him, and instead, stay grounded. 😉

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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