[mlw]

I am newly single and 43. Actually divorced for about 5 years. I have dated on and off but my question is, At 43 is there always going to be that “spark” of attraction right away in order for a relationship to happen between 2 people or should it be deeper and more based on common interests and friendship first? I hope this makes question makes sense.

[glickmpb]

Im 41 and have been divorced for about 4 months now. I met someone online and it was absolutely wonderful. Although she broke my heart and went back to her ex, it absollutely can be wonderful and like it was when your a teenager.

Stay at it…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Love is different for different people, and your life experience colors your journey. People fall in love all different kinds of ways. Sometimes it’s at first sight. Sometimes it’s as a result of knowing someone over a long period of time. Sometimes you choose a man who fits your criterion and fall for him later.

My advice is to figure out what you want in terms of your life and a relationship and go from there. Ironically, you have some benefit of experience from your divorce in knowing what you thought you wanted and what you actually want. So be sure you use that benefit to your advantage! 😉

Hope that helps — let me know if you need anything else.

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