[angelartpainter]

Dear April,

My name is Starla and I am 27. I am currently in a relationship (the very beginning) with a man who is 57 years old. We have known each other for just over two years and I always felt this spark between us. Yesterday (2-9-12) he asked me if he could take me for a drive so we could get to know each other and I said Yes. We talk quite a bit on the phone and even text once in a while. He is very sweet and kind to me. Most of my family is supportive of my choice to date him and I know his brother is fine with his choice because we all know each other, I have yet to meet his parents but like I said we are in the early stages of this. So my concern is not of the normal “Age” difference because we don’t see a gap there, we are both secure with our age range, my concern is that I am a virgin (Yes a real 27 year old virgin) and I told him this upfront and right away. He said he had NO problem with this. However the past few times we have talked I have felt this urge to tell him that I feel I am ready for this step in my life. I have NEVER felt this way about a man before. I have dated before but the idea of making love was the last thing on my mind and actually ended a few relationships because I said NO. For some reason it’s different this this man. When I am with him I feel like I can tell him anything, say anything, and do anything and feel protected and safe. Am I jumping the gun? Is this NORMAL? I am lost and confused.

Thanks for listening – Starla

[AskApril Masini]

Don’t tell him that you’re ready to have sex with him. You’ve already told him you’re a virgin. He knows you’re 27. He knows how to handle the situation, and when he’s ready to take the relationship to the next step, you’ll know because he’ll let you know. It’s a mistake for you to do anything that resembles throwing yourself at him or making yourself too available.

Relax. Take a breath. 😉 Get to know him and yourself. Enjoy the romance and flirt with him when it feels right to you. He’s the guy, and he’ll let you know when it’s time.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

[angelartpainter]

Dear April,

Thank You for your response. I went on my date this morning and he was amazing. A complete gentleman. I feel very safe in his arms. About an hour and a half after we were out on our drive we stopped at this campground where there was light snow on the ground. The sun was shining and it was Amazingly beautiful, He took me in his arms and we shared our first kiss. I felt very secure and safe and wanted more. I did not say anything like you suggested but I felt the urge. I am so new at all of this and I really don’t know what to do next. My mother really is no help, she thinks I need to stay a little girl forever. I am trying to breath and relax but I can’t stop thinking about him and how I feel. I really don’t know what to do from here… Thanks again, Starla

[AskApril Masini]

Relax. You’re doing fine. You had your first kiss with him! You’re just anxious about what hasn’t happened — but don’t jump the gun. 😉 Let him ask you out on a date, and then you can go and have a great time. He’ll lead you, as he has, when it comes to romance and sex. You can purchase Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to win the dating game, and read it. It’s got a lot of basics, which will be particularly helpful to you, as well as some more nuanced advice for complicated situations. You can buy the book on the websites for Amazon and Barnes & Noble, or for the sale price of $8.99 as an e-book, here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. Read the book this weekend (download it now!), and I have a feeling a lot of your questions will be answered for you there. 😀

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