[hans]

Hi,

I’ve met a girl last summer and through our conversations, it seems like we started off having a very deep connection. It was like we could read each other minds and say the same thing at the same time. I had been a little too pushy about my wanting to be in a relationship with her, as I wasn’t going to be in the same city as she is for a while. As I felt this really deep connection with her, so did she. I left but tried to keep up the contact but unfortunately the time wasn’t right and we didn’t get to speak much. After about 6 months later, we were given a chance to be on a 2 months work related trip together. These 2 months have been just simply amazing. It seems natural that we did and shared almost everything together. We didn’t even have to talk much about it. We agreed on almost everything. I really felt at ease with her and also a homely feeling as well. But nevertheless there is a resistance on her side. She didn’t handle her last relationship that well and there’s fear in starting a new one.
She says that she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me, but I somehow believe that it would grown on us with time. The other problem is that she still has some unclear feelings for someone. So I guess this is also in the way of our.

Since we are apart now, I’m not keeping much of a contact to her, well she as well. Right now I’m getting busy with my life and since she’s not so responsive, I’m also not making the move. It seems like I’ve been the one to making the move all the time. What do you think I should do? In some ways I would like to keep the contact going, but I can’t be chasing a no hope relationship. Anyone?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

From what you’ve written it sounds like the two of you have never dated in the year you’ve known each other. 😯 And now you’re not in contact….. it sounds like you should probably find someone to date who lives near you, and with whom you actually want to go out on dates with. 😉

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[hans]

yes you are right. But in some way I don’t seem interested in other people. But I guess that is sound advice.
I believe that this deep connection is something that I don’t really wish to let go. How about the romance part, where she says that she doesn’t have romantic feelings. As a general question, is it possible that it can nevertheless develop?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Romantic feelings for someone[i] can[/i] develop down the line.

[hans]

so what would you advice me on this relationship? since we are apart now, should we try to keep in contact or just let things run it’s course ie I keep my options open to people I meet at where I’m at and meet up to see if there’s still any connection between us. I believe so, since we both feel that we might be soul mates.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]….you should probably find someone to date who lives near you, and with whom you actually want to go out on dates with….[/quote]

I’m not sure why you think you’re soul mates, so my advice is to let go and focus on meeting someone you can have a real life relationship with. 😀

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