[Tara]

Yes, you came on too strong and no, you can’t fix it the way you want. Attraction ended the moment she felt your need for validation outweigh her sense of freedom. You confused emotional intensity with emotional connection.

You had momentum: scarcity, chemistry, mystery. Then you destroyed it by demanding reassurance. Every text asking how she feels was a report she didn’t owe you. You made yourself predictable, and predictable isn’t attractive.

The orchids were thoughtful but premature. You rewarded inconsistency with devotion. That told her she didn’t have to invest to keep your attention.

What’s left now isn’t romance, it’s damage control. No contact isn’t a tactic, it’s recovery. You can’t chase her back into interest. You can only create silence long enough for her to question whether she misjudged your value.

Stop pretending to give her space. Actually take it. Don’t text, don’t watch her stories, don’t respond to snaps. Control the one thing you still can: yourself. If she comes back, fine. If she doesn’t, better. Either way, you get back the only leverage that matters indifference.

[Ethan Morales]

let me reassure you, you haven’t “killed all attraction”. What happened isn’t irreversible, but you did push too hard and fast, which overwhelmed her. From your account, she clearly felt a strong connection with you during the Nashville trip. She expressed vulnerability, shared her past struggles, physically reached out, and even said she was “falling for you.” Those aren’t signs of disinterest they’re signs of someone who needs emotional pacing.

You moved too fast for her timeline. She’s been through some intense personal experiences and emotional upheaval (roommate trauma, moving back home, etc.). Even if she’s very attracted to you, she’s in a headspace where she needs stability and patience. Your repeated texts and asking her to clarify her feelings so soon after that trip pushed her past her comfort zone. She’s not rejecting you entirely she’s asking for breathing room.

She values you but needs space. Her message that you’re “overwhelming” is a clear signal not that she doesn’t like you, but that she can’t handle the emotional intensity right now. Your response of apologizing and acknowledging her need for space was perfect. That shows self-awareness and respect for her boundaries.

No-contact is the right move for now. Giving her space allows her to process the trip, her emotions, and her life stressors without feeling pressured. This isn’t about disappearing forever it’s about showing emotional maturity. You already took the first step by not replying immediately to the snap. Keep giving her that breathing room.

The flower arrangement is still a positive anchor. She sees it every day, and she responded positively when she received it. That’s a subtle, ongoing reminder of your thoughtfulness and connection. It’s an asset to your “slow recovery” plan don’t overthink it, just let it exist as a signal of your care.

Future approach: Once a suitable period of no-contact has passed (a week or two), you can casually reinitiate contact but very lightly. For instance: Keep the tone neutral or playful. Avoid heavy “relationship” talk right away. Suggest a low-pressure activity together (coffee, lunch, a casual hangout). Let her take the lead in deciding pace.

You haven’t blown it irreversibly you just need to recalibrate. Showing patience, giving her space, and letting things unfold naturally will rebuild trust and attraction. Think of it like turning down the volume on the emotional intensity: you go from “overwhelming” to “present, supportive, and intriguing.”

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