[dman187]

My girlfriend and i have been together for just over a year now. when we first started dating our sex life was great. we were having sex 2 to 3 times a week and it was spontaneous and amazing! after the third month together the sex dropped to maybe once a month at most. it has gotten to the point now where it seems she has every excuse in the world not to have sex with me, for example i’m tired from work, i just don’t feel like it, my stomach is bothering me and so on. everything i have read online say just talk to her. we have spoken about this on many occasions and nothing ever seems to be resolved. she tells me that she just doesn’t fell like it that much and doesn’t have the sex drive. it just kinda sounds like bs to me because of how active we were at the beginning of our relationship, and how i know she has been with past boy friends from what she tells me. it really makes me feel unattractive to her and i already have self-esteem issues as it is and this doesn’t help.
i am madly in love with the girl and every thing about her and this is just hard for me. any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are both of you?

[dman187]

I’m 22 she is 20

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like the sex isn’t that good for her. 😳 That’s why she’s backed away from it with you. This is normal sometimes when people in their 20s have sex — lots of times men don’t understand how to please a woman because it’s very different from pleasing a man, and it’s something that you can learn together with good communication skills.

Reconsider the sex you’ve been having and think about how you can make it better for her. Women will want to have sex if it’s good for them and if they care about you! 😉

I hope this helps. Please let me know how it goes, and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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