[Anonymous2121]

Hello. I was wondering if I should ask out this one girl. We’re both college students at the same university and we have a class together. I’ve known her for a couple of months now. (from two quarters ago) First off, we have some things in common. We both like to just relax and watch netflix and what not. I’m more of a social person with numerous friends to hang out with while she says she “says” she has “no friends” at our university but friends in her hometown and she eats alone. She also likes to sleep. (which I do as well) We also help each other in school and can talk to each other pretty easily. However she shows no signs of “liking” me. She laughs at my jokes and whatnot but no flirtation or the “stereotypical” signs of romantic interest. Also she’s extremely attractive (like 9/10) while I’m guess I’m like a 6 or 7 out of 10 on a good day? I am shocked that such a beautiful girl is both single and has few friends, although she dated like an athlete or something in hs. I’m like 5 ft 7 and she’s 5’2-5’4. I feel that she’s out of my league even though I have more friends and more social “connections”. Also, we also both want to go to med school. Also, although it may sound irrelevant, she’s from a not so well off family and I’m from an affluent family. Anyways, thank you for reading this.

-Anonymous

[Ask April Masini]

I think it sounds like you’ve got a shot! 😉 Ask her out — since you both like Netflix, why not invite her to a first-run movie that isn’t on Netflix yet. Or you can invite her to funky theater that shows old movies! I think you should ask her out — and yes, you do have a chance. 🙂

[Anonymous2121]

[quote=”April Masini”]I think it sounds like you’ve got a shot! 😉 Ask her out — since you both like Netflix, why not invite her to a first-run movie that isn’t on Netflix yet. Or you can invite her to funky theater that shows old movies! I think you should ask her out — and yes, you do have a chance. 🙂[/quote]

Thank You! But how should I ask her? Should I say ” Want to go out on a date?” or “You’re special/awesome…” or what? I don’t know how to ask her with the highest probability of her saying yes. Thanks again!

-Anonymous

[Ask April Masini]

The first thing you mentioned works! You can say, I’d love to spend some more time with you — would you like to go on a date? There’s a great movie playing that I think you’d love (and mention the movie). I know it’s scary to put yourself out there, but once you do you’ll be able to feel more confident and do this more easily in the future. That first “ask” is always a little nerve wracking, but the worst that happens is that you get a no — and I don’t think you will in this case. 😉

[Anonymous2121]

[quote=”April Masini”]The first thing you mentioned works! You can say, I’d love to spend some more time with you — would you like to go on a date? There’s a great movie playing that I think you’d love (and mention the movie). I know it’s scary to put yourself out there, but once you do you’ll be able to feel more confident and do this more easily in the future. That first “ask” is always a little nerve wracking, but the worst that happens is that you get a no — and I don’t think you will in this case. 😉[/quote]

Maybe ask her to a non boring date? like ice skating?

[Ask April Masini]

Yes!! 😀

[Anonymous2121]

[quote=”April Masini”]Yes!! 😀[/quote]

Thank You very much! One last question. When should I ask her? And where? Thanks again!

[Ask April Masini]

Ask her this week — Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday — for a specific weekend date. If you can do it face to face, that’s best. And you should try to do it when the two of you are alone — and if you don’t find yourselves alone, ask her if you can talk to her privately for a minute, if she’s with a group of friends. If you can’t find the time to do it face to face, call her on the phone. Women respond positively to mens’ voices, and if you can talk to her (don’t leave a phone message asking her for the date), you’ll have better luck than if you text or e-mail her.

Good luck! 😀

[Anonymous2121]

[quote=”April Masini”]Ask her this week — Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday — for a specific weekend date. If you can do it face to face, that’s best. And you should try to do it when the two of you are alone — and if you don’t find yourselves alone, ask her if you can talk to her privately for a minute, if she’s with a group of friends. If you can’t find the time to do it face to face, call her on the phone. Women respond positively to mens’ voices, and if you can talk to her (don’t leave a phone message asking her for the date), you’ll have better luck than if you text or e-mail her.

Good luck! 😀[/quote]

Okay I’m going to ask her out today! Honestly what percent chance do you think I have? Thanks again for everything! 🙂

[Ask April Masini]

This isn’t a racetrack with odds! Or percentages…. it’s love. Go ask her out! 🙂

[Anonymous2121]

[quote=”April Masini”]This isn’t a racetrack with odds! Or percentages…. it’s love. Go ask her out! 🙂[/quote]

Okay. I wasn’t able to ask her today because she had a meeting right when I was about to ask.

Update: We had dinner at our dinning hall and we talked some. We laughed and shared some moments. However there were some times when she would look at her phone (twitter )but she kept conversing with me. She did not show any signs of liking me though. I don’t know if we’re just friends or if she actually likes me.

[Ask April Masini]

Awesome that you had dinner together. Now, ask her to go to a movie, or something off campus! Ice skating that you had mentioned previously is a great idea. I’m sure you can come up with a slew of others. Keep the relationship going on this one on one dynamic! 😉

[Anonymous2121]

[quote=”April Masini”]Awesome that you had dinner together. Now, ask her to go to a movie, or something off campus! Ice skating that you had mentioned previously is a great idea. I’m sure you can come up with a slew of others. Keep the relationship going on this one on one dynamic! 😉[/quote]

Okay. Forsure I’m going to ask her out today because she had midterms all week and stressed out and I was able to ask her out. So should I say “Let’s go catch a movie” or should I say the word “date” along with it? By not saying “date” she may think it’s just a friends thing. Thanks

[Ask April Masini]

You’ve answered your own question! 🙂 Use the D word so she knows your intentions and there’s no confusion.

[Anonymous2121]

[quote=”April Masini”]You’ve answered your own question! 🙂 Use the D word so she knows your intentions and there’s no confusion.[/quote]
So today i just asked her out to a first date and well, here’s our conversation:

Me: Hey are you busy next Friday?
Her: I don’t know. I don’t plan that far ahead.
Me: Well you’re a really fun person to hang out with and i was wondering if I could take you out to dinner like korean bbq or pho next Friday after your midterm. (says kind of awkwardly)
Her: (laughs) Ask me next week.
Me: Okay. As a date…
Her: (smiles) I don’t know if I’m busy then.
Me: So maybe?
Her: Maybe. (smiles and exits building)

What does she mean? Is it a no?

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