me and this guy met on a cruise. we had sex twice. on the cruise he called me his girlfriend, and if I lived in maryland he said that I would be his girlfriend. after the cruise he contacted me right away. between the cruise and college we saw each other twice. after one visit, he texted me right after saying “thanks for coming..cant wait to see you again”..two days later he texts me and were talking about him coming to ny to visit me and we could go to the city..and he said “way rather see you then the city”..the third time we were supposed to hang out , he messed up plans…and I was down near where he lived and was staying at a hotel. he called me and got a cab and told me he was coming to see me..and it doesn’t matter how much it costs he just wanted to see me..but I told him he messed up plans and it was too late. 5 days later, he called me and apologized for when he messed up plans. he said “lets keep this long distance relationship going”. this past august, I came to college near where he lives, a whole year since the cruise. now were 15 minutes away. we’ve hung out 6 times since I’ve been here. the first time he just stopped by with his friend and his friend said that the guy I like wanted to see his girl..meaning me. he texted me after the visit and said it was nice seeing you tonight. I told him I was sorry he didn’t stay longer and he said he would have loved to, but he didn’t want my suitemates to hate him for being there so late when we have classes the next day. and he said “just wanted to see you.” the second time he came to visit he came to lay with me. we layed together and talked the whole time, and then did stuff. I asked him why things happen sexually between us and he said because I like you and you like me. and I said as more than a friend?and he was like..yeah I like you as more than a friend. the next time we hung out we just layed and talked with eachother..no sex. the 4th time we layed together and talked again. the 5th time we hung out..we actually did have sex..and it was real intimate, and he went and slept on the couch after? which he’s NEVER done before. and then the next time we hung out he was acting really strange and I asked if he liked me and he said “of course I do, its obvious I do, I just don’t want a gf” after he told me he didn’t want a gf we stopped talking for awhile, he basically just walked out of my life. then one day i contacted him and we started talking again and he just came over one night to visit. then i started going out some nights and texting him drunk asking to have sex, and wed meet up.then one night he called me and said “why dont we go out to dinner sometime?” so i said “yes” and he texted me afterwards saying “its not fair that we just call each other to fuck.” well the next night i was drunk and called him and he denied saying the thing about dinner. & he texted me after saying “if you wanted to go grab dinner, why didnt you just ask me? you think i just wanna fuck come on.”
1) did he have feelings for me?
2) was he using me for sex (meaning using me for sex and not having feelings for me?)
3) why didnt he want me to be his gf
4) do you think he was really asking me to dinner, but then denied it because he got nervous?
can you please explain this situation to me, thanks so much!
