[Ask April Masini]

I certainly don’t mind if you post on the same topic, but part of your bigger problem is that you post the same questions over and over and although I do answer you, you don’t read the answers 😳 — or else you read them so quickly you don’t process them. And then you re-post the questions over and over. The cycle has to stop in order for you to understand what’s happening to you in relationships. In fact, if you re-read all your 20 some posts here, I think you’ll see what I’m saying more clearly. 😀

You need to [i]slow down[/i]. Read the book I suggested. It’s not a long book, and the process of committing to a process (dating well!) and doing the work is going to be part of what helps you answer your own questions — so you can come to me with the really tough ones. 😉

Here’s the link for Think & Date Like A Man: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] — it’s an automatic download and only $8.99, so you can start reading right away.

I hope you’ll commit to the process of getting the REAL answers to your questions. 😀

[beachxgirl718]

i will read the book, but i re-read the posts you posted, and i’m just confused on how he could have feelings for me, but still be using me. i know there’s no black and white answer. but i just want to know plain and simple. if he has NO feelings for me at all, and he just wants to have sex and use me. OR if he has feelings for me as more than a friend, but he does NOT want to commit for several reasons. can’t it be that he has feelings for me, but just doesn’t want to commit to me? or does that not exist? i just want a simple opinion of whether he had absolutely no feelings at all and just wanted to use me, or if he did have feelings for me (NOT JUST FRIEND FEELINGS) but just didn’t want to commit? i’m sorry i just don’t understand, and i would just like a simple answer so i could move on. thank you.

[Ask April Masini]

I’m glad you’re going to read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]! It’s going to be great for you to [b]slow down[/b] and [i]process[/i] the advice instead of rushing from asking for advice from people. Being in the moment and using what you’ve learned is part of your challenge right now! You’ll learn a lot by slowing down, and I look forward to hearing from you after you read the book — although it may take you two reads because you love to rush! 😉

[beachxgirl718]

but please can you personally respond to my question that i posted above?
i will read the book, but i re-read the posts you posted, and i’m just confused on how he could have feelings for me, but still be using me. i know there’s no black and white answer. but i just want to know plain and simple. if he has NO feelings for me at all, and he just wants to have sex and use me. OR if he has feelings for me as more than a friend, but he does NOT want to commit for several reasons. can’t it be that he has feelings for me, but just doesn’t want to commit to me? or does that not exist? i just want a simple opinion of whether he had absolutely no feelings at all and just wanted to use me, or if he did have feelings for me (NOT JUST FRIEND FEELINGS) but just didn’t want to commit? i’m sorry i just don’t understand, and i would just like a simple answer so i could move on. thank you.

i would just like a simple summed up answer. did he have feelings for me as more than a friend but he did not want to commit? or did he not have any feelings for me at all and just used me for sex?

[Ask April Masini]

Please read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], as I suggested. It will help you a lot.

Then, I’ll be happy to address or re-address any other questions you have. 😀

[Marcus king]

It sounds like he enjoys your company and there’s definitely some level of affection, but whether he wants a deeper commitment is unclear. The “love you” could be a casual expression of affection, but without real commitment or emotional depth. If you’re looking for a more committed relationship, it might be time to have that difficult conversation with him, and if he’s not on the same page, then it could be time to move on and focus on finding someone who shares your values and goal

[PassionSeeker]

You’re craving warmth, not chaos but right now, you’re mistaking escape for love. The man you met gives you attention, excitement, validation everything your fiancé has stopped offering. That’s why it feels like “real love.” But the truth is, he’s married, and his world is just as complicated as yours. Neither of you is free, and what feels like connection is really an emotional refuge from lives that need healing.

You don’t need another man to save you you need to save yourself. End this affair before it destroys the parts of you that still want to be proud of your choices. Then take a hard look at your relationship at home. You can’t change your fiancé, but you can change how long you stay in a situation that drains you.

Healing starts with honesty with yourself first. You deserve more than stolen moments and guilt. You deserve peace, clarity, and the strength that comes when you finally stop running from your own truth.

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