[stephye86]

ok so this guy that i really like, Im not so sure he likes me or not.. we have known each other since we were little, we went on one day back in high school, and nothing ever happened then i moved away, ok so about 3 yrs ago we started talking and he would tell me oh ill help you and blah blah, then when i was on my way to see him ( i live 2 hrs away so we hadnt seen each other in almost 7 yrs at that point) so my ex called me (we have 2 kids together) and i took him back and texted the other guy and told him that. So i felt super bad about that and the next yr I texted him and we started talking again and he was different he was distant this time and didnt call me as much or text me as much but i finally made it to see him twice nothing ever happened we just hugged, anyway so this time he stopped talking to me, i was like ok pay back i guess, so anyway we have been talking again for about a month and i went to see him at his house this past weekend and we had sex, granted he called me this time and has been really good about calling/texting me everyday and i really like him all over again and i think he likes me maybe? but he does say he doesnt want to rush into anything? am i overreacting when i think it means he wants nothing to do with me, even though we talk everyday, or is he just hesitant about talking to me to protect his feelings this time?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You went to see him this weekend (four days ago), had sex with him, and want to know if you’re a booty call or more. Got it. Well…. the way to see if he likes you is to see if he treats you like a girlfriend. 😉 So if he calls you and asks you out on a date, then you’ll know he wants to date you. But you have to give him an opportunity to do so. 🙂

My advice is not to throw yourself at him or chase him. Don’t be the first one to call or text. Don’t go to his house. Let him take you out instead. You see, when you chase men, you get confused and don’t know what’s going on, because you haven’t given them the opportunity to pursue you — which is a good way to figure out if they like you. Men have sex because they can, so when you make it easy for them, you’re taking away their opportunity to chase YOU and you’re confusing yourself because you don’t know how much they actually like you. 😉

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[stephye86]

that does help thank you but also I wanted to know what the whole “I don’t want to rush things” mean to guys? especially if ive hurt him in the past is he just being cautious or he is blowing me off? I don’t know because I cant tell because we do talk everyday and all so why would he waste his time if he didnt want to talk to me? I have been out of the “dating” seen for awhile so I dont know how guys “work” now lol

[April Masini, your AskApril]

My advice is not to talk to him everyday. Don’t be so available. Give him something to chase after. 😎 And see if he asks you out. Again — if a guy likes you and wants you to be his girlfriend, he’ll act like it.

When a guy says he wants to take things slowly, it usually means he wants to ease into the relationship — but because you had sex with him before you even went on a date 🙄 it probably means that he doesn’t want you to think that the sex means that you’re in a relationship. 😳

You might want to buy and read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right. It’s going to help you a lot since you’re new (again) to dating. 😉 Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

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