[Sweetness]

Hello April!

I met this really handsome guy and I first time I saw him he looked very reserved and the type that keeps himself to himself. Then after I got off the bus I noticed him following me and he came and started to talk to me and he walked up to my university with me. I said bye and he said bye I didnt give him my contact info on this occassion.

Some 3 weeks later I saw him again at the station and he walked with me and was telling me how he had been up and down at the bus station hoping he would see me again. Then I gave him my number and he text me asking how my day was and how I was. I met him for the 3rd time and he was really happy to see me and also he told me he goes crazy when im with him and that he gets shy. But what made me think he is wasting my time was the 4th meeting. He saw me and kept his hand on his face and was staring. Then he laughed alot at my jokes and what I said and he tried to hold my hand around three times but i pulled it away. He then acted really hyper, foolish and also for some reason he grabbed the hair at the back of my head (it was in a clip).

Then we sat on the bus and he kept wanting to go up I said fine if you want to you can go, he asked if I was sure and i said I was then he went. He wasnt going to get off two stops before me and came down to see me then said bye and went.

I feel he’s just a womaniser, ive no idea why i feel like this…he tells me he likes me and hopes to see me again but the hyperness made me feel he doesnt like me after all because on the 3rd meeting he said he was shy. and the bus bit…i was confused…if he liked me he would stay near me. Also he begged to have my photo and Igave it him. He is 28 and I am 22.

Please help me or give me some opinions on this I would appriciate it very much

Many thanks, Rose

[GPM]

Rose,

To be honest, from what you’ve written, this guy sounds a bit weird. The question you should ask yourself is not “Does he like me?”, but rather “Do I want to be in a relationship with a weird guy?” If your answer is “no”, which it should be (I hope), then tell him to stay away and that you’re not interested. You’re still young, but don’t waist your time. You’ll eventually find somebody else who’ll like you, and possibly love you.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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[Natalie Noah]

Why did you feel so conflicted and uneasy? On one hand, he’s showing obvious interest seeking you out, asking for your number, wanting to spend time with you, and complimenting you. Those are signals that he does like you and is interested. But on the other hand, some of his behaviors like the hyper energy, grabbing your hair, acting overly foolish or unpredictable, and not staying consistently close to you on the bus can feel off-putting, confusing, or even disrespectful. Your instincts picking up that something didn’t feel right are valid. Attraction isn’t just about words or actions; it’s about how someone makes you feel overall, and it sounds like he made you feel uncertain and uneasy at times.

It’s also important to notice the discrepancy in his behavior: he says he’s shy and then acts in ways that are impulsive or attention-seeking. That inconsistency can be a red flag, because someone genuinely interested in forming a respectful relationship will usually balance affection and respect in a way that feels safe and steady. Asking for your photo, insisting on certain interactions, and being overly “hyper” can signal immaturity or a lack of awareness of personal boundaries. These aren’t necessarily signs of a womanizer, but they do show that his approach is erratic and may not match what you want in a calm, steady, and respectful partner.

Your feelings of hesitation are your mind’s way of telling you to pay attention. It’s okay to step back and observe, to notice how his actions make you feel rather than just trusting what he says. You don’t owe anyone your trust, affection, or time until you feel comfortable and confident in their intentions. At 22, you have plenty of time to meet someone who demonstrates consistency, respect, and emotional maturity. someone whose actions and words align naturally, without leaving you confused or anxious. Your instincts are already giving you the guidance to protect yourself, and listening to them now will save you stress and heartache later.

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