[Thehuman1]

Im 17 in highschool, My girlfriend didnt answer me much at all yesterday and when she finally answered me she said she was going with her friends skating. I asked it i could meet her and she said it was a “girls night” and later she told me her ex showed up, he is a troubled kid with a violent history with her. She said she didnt tell me because she didnt want me to go and him show up to keep me out of problems, she was “protecting” me from him But then she said before we hungup that her “butt got touched so much tonight” the way she said it like it didnt even matter just bugged me. What should i do? Thanks in advance

[AskApril Masini]

I think you should let it go. Obviously, you feel territorial over her because she’s your girlfriend, but you have to pick your battles. If she’s really interested in you, her ex isn’t going to be a real threat — just an annoyance. Everyone has exes and they’re part of the baggage that comes with dating. If her ex — or the way she interacts with exes becomes too much of a challenge for the two of you to be happy together, then you can reconsider the relationship, or consider talking to her about how much this bothers you. But before you do that, wait and see if it doesn’t go away on it’s own. Sometimes giving energy to a problem creates more of a problem than ignoring it, or letting it go.

Hope that helps!

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[Thehuman1]

[quote=”April Masini”]I think you should let it go. Obviously, you feel territorial over her because she’s your girlfriend, but you have to pick your battles. If she’s really interested in you, her ex isn’t going to be a real threat — just an annoyance. Everyone has exes and they’re part of the baggage that comes with dating. If her ex — or the way she interacts with exes becomes too much of a challenge for the two of you to be happy together, then you can reconsider the relationship, or consider talking to her about how much this bothers you. But before you do that, wait and see if it doesn’t go away on it’s own. Sometimes giving energy to a problem creates more of a problem than ignoring it, or letting it go.

Hope that helps!

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Thank you! But do you think i should do anything about the hole butt grabbing thing, it just bugs me that she let guys all on her grabbing and touching her and she didnt say a thing…

[Thehuman1]

[quote=”April Masini”]I think you should let it go. Obviously, you feel territorial over her because she’s your girlfriend, but you have to pick your battles. If she’s really interested in you, her ex isn’t going to be a real threat — just an annoyance. Everyone has exes and they’re part of the baggage that comes with dating. If her ex — or the way she interacts with exes becomes too much of a challenge for the two of you to be happy together, then you can reconsider the relationship, or consider talking to her about how much this bothers you. But before you do that, wait and see if it doesn’t go away on it’s own. Sometimes giving energy to a problem creates more of a problem than ignoring it, or letting it go.

Hope that helps!

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Do you think i should do anything about the butt grabbing? Bugs me that random guys are all over her and he didnt say a thing to them and let them do it

[AskApril Masini]

I don’t think you should do anything about it. At least not now. She is perfectly capable of telling him not to touch her, and it doesn’t sound like she did. She may like it or she may think it’s not a big deal. Again, wait and see if this becomes a pattern, or if it was a one time thing. You don’t want to turn what’s just a mountain into a molehill. 😉

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