First, you’re getting a crash course in how attraction works and how unfair it can feel. Some people have that thing that pulls attention without even trying. It’s frustrating, especially when it feels like they’re taking up all the oxygen in the room. But what’s happening isn’t about you being “less than” it’s about her being a temporary magnet in a small social circle. Once everyone grows up a bit and the dating pool expands, that magnetic power fades fast.
April’s main point “competition exists, so be your best self” is real. Instead of trying to outshine your friend in her lane, find your own lane. When you double down on what makes you interesting, people notice. Confidence, humor, kindness, unique hobbies those are long-term attractive traits. Think of it like this: she might get the first glance, but the person who has depth and individuality gets the second look the one that actually matters.
And April’s advice to learn from her is gold. Don’t hate her for being liked; observe what draws people to her. Is it the way she carries herself? The way she talks to people? You can borrow parts of that energy without copying her. That’s called self-evolution, not competition.
The part about talking to her is tricky but powerful. If she’s a real friend, she’ll care how you feel and she might even tone things down once she realizes it hurts others. If she’s not, that tells you who she really is. Either way, you win because you’ll know where you stand.
Don’t waste energy resenting her glow. Build your own light. The right person won’t just like you, they’ll see you. And trust me, that’s a lot better than being everyone’s crush-of-the-week.
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