[gingerh2599]

I am a 38 yr old woman with a 7 year old daughter. I have been recently divorced and had moved out into my grandparents house. Recently my parents whom owned the house after my grandfather had passed have sold the house and told me i had to move out. Because i work only a part time job I couldn’t afford my own place at the moment so I had to move back into my ex husband and mine house – upstairs which is a seperate apartment. This of course has confused my daughter and him as well. He gets the idea that we will get back together and he wont leave me alone. He buys me gifts, pays bills and wont take money from me for them. Says he is a changed man and wants to start fresh with me. The thing is I have fallen out of love with him, i have no passion anymore. As a person and my daughters father is as far as it goes for me. I have been with this man since i was 16 yrs old and i have been through alot with him. He has verbally abused me for years and then started doing the same to our daughter. Its hard for me to change how i feel about him now. I have tried to talk to my mother about the situation but only sees it her way. Tells me that he obviously loves me still and no other man would do what he is trying to do to keep the “family” together. She also said that he never did anything to her personally so she really cant give me advice. I do know that my ex husband contacts my mother alot via texting and talks abut private business. I just feel lost and stuck 🙁 FORGOT TO INCLUDE – I DO HAVE EMPLOYMENT, I WORK 30 HRS A WEEK.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It seems like your only problem is that you’ve moved into your ex-husband’s house, and you don’t like living there. So…. What’s keeping you from getting a job and becoming independent so that you have enough money to get your own apartment? If your daughter is seven, I presume that she’s in school, and child care after school and your ex-husband sharing custody of your daughter’s time can allow you enough hours to get a job that will afford you an income so you can pay for a place to live on your own. That seems to be the solution to your problem! 😉

[b]Everyone likes to be liked! If the advice you found on AskApril.com was helpful “like” us on FB — and tell a friend!
[url][/url][/b]

[Member]

Posts