[bemyhappyvirus]

I’ve been talking to a guy for a while as friends (I’ve always liked him as more though, and he knows it–he likes me too). The only reason we’ve remained as friends is because he had a girlfriend. Well, he and his girlfriend broke up before Thanksgiving, and since then, we’ve talked about getting together. Here’s the problem: every time I’m around said guy, his ex girlfriend comes up and starts trying to split us up. I’m scared that if I don’t hurry and get with this guy soon that I’ll miss my chance again, but I also want to give him time to recuperate. I honestly [i]really[/i] like this guy a lot.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The problem with being in the friend zone is that it’s hard to get out! You have to try and transition out of the friend zone, which means not being friendly, and instead, being flirtatious. 😎 That will change your dynamic with him, and let him know you’re interested in dating. If he wants to ask you out, he will. 😉

[Lune David]

Wow, this is intense. 😏 Honestly, you’re totally right to want to make a move — staying in friend-zone land forever isn’t going to win anything. April nailed it: ditch the “just friends” act and lean into the flirt. Let him feel that you’re not just a buddy.

And about his ex trying to split you two? Ignore the noise. It’s not her timing that matters, it’s his decision. If you play this smart — confident, flirty, genuine — you could go from “just friends” to “something real,” and fast.

Go for it — show him what “upgrade” really looks like.

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