[bouken_spirits]

well recently i’ve been hanging with a few people i know for awhile now and almost every week we always go somewhere to chill for abit.now just awhile i’ve started to have some feelings for one of them but i dont know if i should tell her or not.she already has somebody and i’m afraid if i tell her she would be shocked and dont know how the outcome will end up.what should i do?

[nightowl92]

if you ask me, you should tell her how you feel. i know that’s a cheesy response, but it’s honestly the way to go. i’m not saying that you should make a dramatic scene saying you love her and then kiss her in the rain, i’m just saying that you should see what she thinks. if a guy told me that he had feelings for me, i would have respect for him. even if i wasn’t interested in him in that way, he had enough balls to come out and tell me.

[gmann70]

A male friend told me that he loved me 15 years ago, when I was in a (BAD) relationship with someone else. I told him I was not interested (& I am still not now). He accepted it and we have managed to remain friends until this day. I think he was brave for telling me. It is hard for most guys to share their feelings, so just go for it. If she’s a good friend & she’s not interested, then it shouldn’t ruin your friendship. See what happens.

[marc22]

personally i wouldn’t tell her, anyone who’s already seeing someone usually won’t like being told that someone else likes them and if i know anything from my own experiences it ruins friendship and any chance of them going out with you. i would wait it out see what happens with her and the other guy and if they break up tell her but if they dont it will be easier for you to move on.

[bouken_spirits]

thats what i’m afraid of happening if i do tell her how i feel about her.i dont want to ruin the friendship but yet i dont want anything bad to come out of it.i understand that i should just go for it but its just the outcome that pulls me back from tellin.

[debra18]

You can tell her at the right time, because I also experienced that before. I’ve been in love with a guy friend and he has a girlfriend. When i told about my feelings with him, he was really shocked about what he was heard from me. I know he was shocked because he’s not expecting that I have a feelings for him and he treat me just only for a friend. It really hurts my feeling, when the one I love treating me just only for a friend. So, I would suggest you to make the right decision. If you’ll know that you a chance, then go!fight for it! 😉

[angelarose20]

Hi all, Dating someone is as hard as actually finding a date. To some finding a date is like a needle in a haystack; to others it is like a mountain flowing with honey.

[serendipidous55]

There are ways to tell someone and ways to not tell someone. Here is a way that could work: I want to pay you a compliment. “I have gotten to know you over the past several weeks and I think you are ( funny? nice to be around? make people comnfortable? interesting to talk to? ) and I think you always look great! I understnad you ae dating ” joe schmoe” but if things don’t work out, I want you to know that I would be interested in dating you. ANd if things are going well now for you, then I hope it just gets better. ” If sonmeone said that to me, I wold accept the compliment and fel great and understand that my existing relationship is being respected and that I can go out with you if I decide to end it.

Good luck!

[kristine08m]

I think tell your someone special.

[Ask April Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.

[Ethan Morales]

This is a delicate situation, and it’s good that you’re thinking it through instead of just reacting impulsively. Here’s a way to approach it:

Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t act rashly. It’s natural to develop feelings for someone you spend time with. Recognize that these feelings exist, but remember that they don’t have to be acted on immediately.

Respect her current relationship. Since she already has someone, telling her how you feel could put her in an awkward position and potentially strain your friendship. Right now, maintaining her comfort and your friendship should be the priority.

Focus on yourself. Sometimes, feelings for someone unavailable can be stronger because of the “forbidden” aspect. Spend time exploring your own life, interests, and other connections. This helps reduce the intensity of unreciprocated feelings.

Decide if you can handle being just friends. If your feelings are causing you pain or jealousy, it’s okay to create a little distance so you can process them. This isn’t about punishing her; it’s about protecting your emotional well-being.

Future possibilities. Only consider telling her if her relationship ends and there’s a chance for something mutual. Until then, let things be and keep the friendship healthy.

For now, don’t tell her. Respect her relationship, take care of yourself, and keep your friendship intact. Acting prematurely could hurt both of you and possibly ruin a connection that matters.

[PassionSeeker]

You’re in a sensitive spot, and it’s understandable that you’re conflicted. Developing feelings for someone you spend time with is natural, but since she’s already in a relationship, telling her right now could create unnecessary tension or even damage your friendship.

It’s best to respect her current situation and focus on managing your own emotions. Sometimes, what feels intense is amplified by the fact that she’s unavailable that sense of “what if” can make the feelings stronger. Try to give yourself some emotional space, spend time with other friends, and stay busy with things that make you feel grounded.

If her relationship ever ends and your connection still feels genuine, that’s when you could gently express how you feel. But right now, silence is the wiser, more respectful choice. Protect your friendship and your peace of mind not every strong feeling needs immediate action. If it’s meant to develop into something more, it will have the right time to do so naturally.

[Marcus king]

She’s already with someone, so this is not the moment to confess anything. Telling her now doesn’t bring you closer to her it just puts her in an awkward position and you in a painful one. If she’s committed, the most respectful move is to not interfere. You don’t want to be the guy who becomes a complication in someone’s relationship.
But your feelings are real so instead of confessing, pull back just a little. Not dramatic, not cold just enough space to get your emotions under control. Keep it friendly, keep it natural, but stop fueling those moments that make you fall deeper.
If her relationship ever ends on its own naturally, not because of you then that’s when you step closer and see if there’s space for something real.
You don’t have to push it. Just be steady.
Respect speaks louder than confession.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

ugh babe… classic heart vs logic battle 😩but listen, don’t drop that bomb unless you need to. if she’s happy with her person, saying it might just mess the vibe and your peace. but if it’s eating you alive, be real once, just don’t stick around hoping she’ll pick you. sometimes the move is to feel it, then unfollow it in your heart. 💔✨

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