One of the things that women tend to do is try to take care of people. It’s a nice quality, but it doesn’t always work. And the reason it doesn’t work in relationships is that in your case, you can’t take care of your boyfriend, and yourself, honestly. It won’t work. 😳 You know it, but you don’t want to break his heart by telling him that you’re losing interest, the distance is becoming a deal breaker, and you want to see what else is out there for you because you’re only 20 and you don’t have a lot of experience, dating. So instead, you’re lying to him 😮 so that you can delay telling him the truth. By trying to take care of him, you’re not being honest, and ultimately, you’re going to be deceiving him. 😳 I know it’s hard to reconcile, but you can hurt him quickly and honestly, or you can do it in a less honest way that involves time wasted and anxiety for both of you. My vote is for the former method.
Love doesn’t come with an insurance policy — and if it did, it would be a wildly expensive policy! 😆 People get hurt. They get rejected. And sometimes you’re the one doing the rejecting; other times you’re the one receiving the rejection. It’s life, and it’s unavoidable. In addition to which, the more you date, the more you’ll understand that rejection isn’t just a kick in the knees — it’s a gift! It’s a way for him to understand that continuing to date you, under the circumstances, is going to be a dead end for him. It’s much better for both of you to be dating people you see a future with, and the bottom line is that you’re not looking for a future with him right now. You want to date the field and see what else is out there BEFORE you settle down. It’s a smart decision on your part. He’ll ultimately understand that.
My advice is to be gentle, be kind, and be honest and clear when you let him down. I hope this helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀
