[yuminnie28]

I have a guy friend since i was entering the first year in college. We’ve already know each other and actually i have a crush on him since a year ago. At first, he is joking me around and teasing me. About 4-5 months ago, we become closer and maybe become best friend. We lived in the same dorm (different room) when we did an internship program. That’s why we become closer. Sometimes i have a feeling that he has a crush on me too, but i doubt it. Since we lived in the same dorm, he obviously worry about me not having a dinner (I think i am to confident). And when i had a injury in my knees, he secretively buy me a plaster through his friend (because he is the only one of my friend that knew my injury).

Actually, I want to confess it to him but i’m afraid that will risking our friendship if he doesn’t like me. Or become awkward each other. But, I think he already knows that i like him because he once ask me if i have a crush or not. And foolishly I tell him that I like someone else, not him. But he said he already knows that i am in love before i tell to him. And he always forces me to confess to my crush. Is that mean he likes me too or what? What should I do? Should I confess to him or not? Thank you.

[Ask April Masini]

To get out of the friend zone, you have to stop being his friend. This means you risk a friendship — but that friendship doesn’t really exist. You’re not friends, you’re something more. So, don’t be available the way a friend is, and instead, do flirt with him and compliment him so he knows you find him attractive and you’re interested in dating him. This is all a lot more difficult to do than to talk about — but it’s a great tool to have and use, and it’s the best way to escape the friend zone and become a romantic contender. 😉

[Ram]

try to stop the front zone. It is the perfect way of you to separate with them.. avoid any kind of conversations through them.. try something new for your better.. mingle with more peoples .

[Ask April Masini]

Good advice!

[Samuel]

I guess, that if he gives you a plaster through his friend, it means he is shy to approach you himself. It wouldn’t be the case, if you were friends only. You’ll find great pieces of April’s advice here on RelationshipAdviceForum.com. If you don’t want to risk your friendship, try to be creative. You are a woman, you may find ways to hint him that you are interested in something more than just friendship. For example, next time you’ll be laughing at something together, kiss him gently on cheek. If he won’t accept it warmly, then just smile and tell him it was just in the hit. Good luck!

[Ask April Masini]

Getting out of the friend zone can be tough — but it’s worth it to figure out exactly where you stand. I know it’s scary to risk rejection, but I’d encourage you to take that risk. 😉

[Val Unfiltered💋]

girl he’s either into you or he’s enjoying being the main character in your love story 😭 buying plasters in secret?? worrying if you ate?? that’s not “just friends” behavior, that’s soft launch boyfriend energy💋 if you can’t stand the what-if anymore, just tell him! worst case, it’s awkward for a week. best case? he was waiting for you to say it first. either way, you win. 💅

[Ethan Morales]

It sounds like you already have a strong emotional connection with him, and the signs you’re noticing him teasing you, showing care for your wellbeing, and nudging you about confessions do suggest he might have feelings for you. But feelings aren’t always clear-cut, and his actions could also just reflect a close friendship. The tricky part is that you’re both dancing around each other’s emotions. Your fear of risking the friendship is valid, but staying in the “friend zone” won’t get you clarity or a romantic relationship either.

Here’s the thing April Masini’s advice is pointing to: to shift the dynamic, you need to signal romantic interest actively, not just wait for the “right moment.” This doesn’t mean ending the friendship abruptly it means changing how you interact:

Flirtation: Light teasing, compliments about his looks, or playful touches can signal that your interest is more than platonic. Boundaries: Don’t be constantly available like a typical friend create space to make him notice your absence. Direct hints: You can be a little more forward in conversations about attraction or dating in general.

If you do decide to confess directly, it’s okay, but frame it lightly: something like, “I’ve realized I’m not just interested in being friends, and I’d like to see if we could date.” It’s honest without being pressuring. The key is: you’re not guaranteed rejection and even if he doesn’t feel the same way, you’ve at least tested the waters and can adjust your friendship dynamic consciously rather than guessing forever.

[PassionSeeker]

This sounds like one of those sweet, slow-burn college stories where friendship starts to blur into something softer. honestly? from what you described the teasing, the quiet care, the plaster thing (come on that’s tender) he probably feels something. but some guys hide behind jokes or “friendship” because they’re scared too.

you’ve been holding this in for a while, and that stuck-in-between feeling hurts more than rejection ever could. so here’s my take: don’t drop a heavy “confession.” instead, start shifting the vibe. flirt a little compliment him when he looks good, hold eye contact longer than usual, touch his arm when you laugh. see how he reacts. if he leans in, that’s your green light.

and if after that you’re still unsure? say something gentle but clear, like:
“you know… sometimes I feel like we’re more than just friends. do you ever feel that too?”

either way, you’ll walk away with clarity not what-ifs. that’s worth everything, babe.

[Tara]

He already knows you like him. You didn’t fool him with that “I like someone else” lie — you only made yourself look uncertain and afraid. A guy doesn’t tease you, look after you, buy you things in secret, and worry about your meals unless he’s at least curious about you. But he’s not making a move because you’re sending mixed signals and he’s not going to risk looking stupid if you can’t even admit you like him.

Right now the “friendzone” isn’t something he put you in.

It’s something you built by pretending you liked someone else.

Stop analyzing every tiny gesture. Stop overthinking the friendship. If you want something more, you make it clear. If you stay silent, you lose your chance and he moves on.

[Sally]

You’re close, you’re laughing, he’s taking care of you in these tiny quiet ways… and you’re stuck wondering if it means what you hope it means.

Here’s the thing: guys don’t buy plaster for a girl they don’t care about. They don’t keep checking if you’ve eaten. They don’t push you to talk about your “crush” unless they’re trying to figure out where they stand without saying it first. He’s not clueless. He sees you.

But the only way this stops feeling confusing is if one of you is brave. And honestly? It might have to be you. Not a big dramatic confession just something simple like “Hey… I like you. If you don’t feel the same, we’re still good.”
If he likes you, he’ll show it fast.

If he doesn’t, at least you won’t be stuck in the maybe forever.

[Natalie Noah]

It’s clear that your feelings for him are strong, and the closeness you share makes the situation both exciting and nerve-wracking. You’ve noticed that he shows care in subtle ways like worrying about you having dinner or secretly helping with your knee injury which can be signs of affection. At the same time, his teasing and insistence that you confess your crush could be playful, or it could indicate he’s aware of his own feelings and is testing the waters. It’s understandable to feel confused about what it all means, especially since he asked if you had a crush and claimed he already knew about your feelings.

I would likely say that your best approach is to shift the dynamic subtly rather than risking everything with a blunt confession immediately. Start introducing more flirtation and small compliments to signal your romantic interest clearly, so he can pick up on it without the friendship being endangered. This helps you see if he reciprocates your feelings before making a direct move. By stepping slightly out of the purely “friend” role, you can gauge whether he’s interested in something more and make your next steps feel more natural, confident, and mutual.

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