Getting back with an ex especially one with a history of substance abuse is very tricky. April Masini’s point is spot on: absence can either make you realize how much you care, or it can make it clear that the reasons you loved them before are no longer valid.
His recovery stability, He fell off the wagon six months ago. Relapse is part of the journey, but it’s important to ask: is his recovery consistent now? How long has he truly been sober this time? Recovery isn’t just about saying “I’m back in AA”; it’s about proven, sustained effort.
People with addiction often repeat past behaviors unless deep, lasting changes have occurred. Look at his actions over the last few years, not just his words. Even if he’s doing well now, getting back together means risking your emotional health. Are you prepared to handle potential setbacks without losing yourself? f you consider reuniting, set boundaries around trust, communication, and accountability. Without them, old patterns can resurface quickly.
It can work if he’s genuinely stable and both of you are honest, but it’s high risk. Most importantly, take time to observe his current life, his habits, and his commitment before making any decision.
