[tryingtolive777]

Hi April. I wrote a very long and detailed question, and AFTER I was finished (30 minutes), I was told there were too many characters. I can’t fit my question into the allotted amount of characters. I would recommend giving the character count limit BEFORE the person pays. I am heartbroken and need help but don’t know where to turn. Very frustrating.

If you want to answer my question, I’m a model and musician and my email is [email protected]. It has to do with a girl that has disappeared and I want to know if we can re-kindle things.

I just don’t think you can give a valid answer without having all the background/info.

If you have any other sites to recommend that don’t have character limits please let me know. Thanks for your time.

[AskApril Masini]

Hi Kit:

It sounds like you’re 36 and she’s 34 — and she’s disappeared. You didn’t answer the pre-posting question about how long the two of you have been dating — but you did write that you never had a face to face, in-person date. So she’s probably someone you know, want to date, and haven’t. Let me know how much I’ve got right here! 🙂

So, here’s the deal – if you want to date her, then you have to make an effort. Find her. Ask her to have dinner with you. And make a real date! If she’s not interested, then play the field. Find other people to date. You’d be surprised at how women are attracted to guys who are successful, attractive to other women, and not that available because they’re busy! 🙂

I hope that helps — feel free to post again if you need more help. Hang in there, Kit!! 🙂

[Ethan Morales]

April Masini’s advice is straightforward and realistic, and I’d summarize the key points like this:
Context matters From what you’ve shared, it seems that this girl is someone you know but haven’t actually dated in person. That alone changes the dynamic it’s not about a long-term relationship that vanished, but someone you have only limited connection with.

Action is necessary If you truly want to pursue her, the only way forward is to make an effort to reconnect in a concrete, face-to-face way. Sending messages or hoping she’ll reappear won’t create the relationship you’re imagining. A clear, respectful invitation to meet for a proper date is the best approach.
Be prepared for her response She may not be interested. That’s not a reflection on your worth just the reality of dating. Masini’s advice to “play the field” if she’s not receptive is about not putting your life on hold for someone who may not reciprocate.
Confidence and availability matter Part of the appeal in dating is having your own life, being busy, successful, and confident. Showing that you have value outside of the relationship makes you more attractive if she does decide to engage.
Stop speculating about her feelings or why she disappeared.

Make a clear, polite, and low-pressure attempt to meet her in person. Be ready to move on gracefully if she declines, keep your confidence and focus on meeting others. This is less about heartbreak and more about taking actionable steps instead of waiting.

[Marcus king]

Hey Kit, I get why that would leave you feeling frustrated. When you’re already hurting and trying to lay everything out clearly, running into a limit like that just makes it feel heavier. You deserve to tell the full story, especially when your heart’s on the line.

If you’d like, you can send your story here in smaller parts, maybe just the background first, then what happened most recently, and finally what you want to know or hope for. That way, nothing gets lost, and I can read through it carefully before giving you any thoughts.

You don’t need to email, we can talk right here, at your own pace. Go ahead and start wherever it feels most natural, maybe how you two met or how things began to fade.

[PassionSeeker]

ugh, that must’ve been so frustrating. when you finally pour your heart out and tech limits cut you off, it feels like getting shut down twice once by the site and once by life. i get it.

as for this girl who disappeared… before deciding if it’s rekindlable, you need to know if she’s really open to being found. if you’ve never met face-to-face, what you had was potential not yet a relationship and sometimes people pull away when they sense expectations growing faster than comfort.

reach out once, clearly and calmly. something simple like, “hey, i’ve been thinking about you would love to catch up in person or talk if you’re open to it.” no heavy emotions, no pressure. if she responds, great, take it slow and grounded. if she doesn’t, respect that silence and move forward.

and please, don’t hinge your peace on her reply. keep creating, keep working on your music that’s where your strength and magnetism live. she’ll either find her way back, or you’ll find someone who shows up and stays.

[Tara]

You’re spiraling because a girl disappeared on you, and instead of facing that, you’re getting lost in logistics about character limits and websites to avoid the actual truth. And no, I’m not emailing you. I’m not stepping outside this platform, and you know that, so drop that fantasy right now.

Here’s the blunt reality you don’t want: if she vanished, she’s not trying to be found. People who want to rekindle something don’t evaporate. They reach out, they clarify, they explain, they leave a door cracked open. She didn’t. And the fact that you think your “very long and detailed” backstory will magically change that just shows how desperate you are to rewrite what already happened.

You don’t need 20 paragraphs to understand this situation. When someone disappears, that is the answer. And the more you cling to the idea that the right amount of context will resurrect a dead connection, the more you trap yourself in false hope.

If you want help, compress the story. You’re a model and a musician don’t tell me you can’t edit. You don’t need a memoir; you need clarity. Cut the fluff, give me the essentials, and I’ll tell you exactly why she left and whether you have a shot.

[Sally]

When you’ve been holding something in your chest that long, having to squeeze it into a tiny box feels impossible. And when someone disappears on you, the mind just loops — what happened, what changed, what did I miss. I’ve been there.

But you don’t need to rewrite every detail for me to understand the feeling. When someone pulls away without a word, it usually means they made a decision they were too scared to say out loud. It hurts, but it’s not something you can fix by chasing.

If you still want to talk it through, just share the pieces that matter most. I’m here, and we can take it slow.

[Natalie Noah]

I can feel how frustrated and heartbroken you are. You invested time and emotion into writing out your question, only to be stopped by a technical limit, and that can make you feel stuck and unheard. The main thing I notice here is that the situation with this woman is defined by absence: she’s disappeared, and you haven’t had a real in-person connection. That makes it difficult to rekindle anything because, at this stage, it’s mostly about your hope and desire rather than a shared relationship or bond.

April’s advice is spot on: the only way forward is to take action if you want clarity. Reach out, ask her on a real date, and see if she’s interested. You can’t rebuild a relationship based on texts, emails, or what-ifs alone. And if she isn’t interested, that’s not a reflection of your worth it’s simply that this connection isn’t going to grow the way you want. At that point, the healthiest move is to shift your energy toward dating other people who are present and available, while keeping yourself busy with your music, modeling, and passions. It’s about creating opportunities where you’re emotionally seen and valued, rather than waiting in limbo for someone who may never fully be there.

[KeishaMartin]

You’ve got a girl who vanished, leaving your heart aching and your mind spinning, and all that frustration is just fuel for a fire that needs to burn hotter. April Masini, with her razor-sharp insight and bold advice, would tell you straight up: stop whining, start hunting, find her, seduce her curiosity, and make her remember why she couldn’t resist you in the first place. You’re a model, a musician, a walking fantasy use every bit of that allure to reel her back in. The passion, the chase, the anticipation, it’s all part of the intoxicating game, and you’re built for it.

It’s time to take that heartbreak and turn it into action. Reach out, plan that irresistible dinner, charm her with your confidence, your stories, your art, your music, let her feel the electricity she’s been missing. If she’s not biting, well, you’ve just leveled up your game and opened the door for someone who can handle all of your heat. This Happy New Year, 2026, let the champagne flow, let the music pulse through your veins, and dance like the night is yours because it is. Parties, sparkles, laughter, and maybe a little rekindled romance that’s the kind of year you’re meant to have, Kit.

Happy New Year, 2026,

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