[Cece101]

A week ago I was shopping for a bikini with my friend and came across a very cute one-piece suit. I bought it and went home. My friend wanted to see how the bottoms fit so I took a picture, planning to send it. However my phone somehow malfunctioned, and accidentally sent it to this guy I don’t know very well. I’m 16. I explained the accident to him, and he claimed he wouldn’t send it to anyone. But I don’t know him enough to trust him. He doesnt live in my city, know my friends or family, nor does he know my full name, address, personal info, etc. The picture is tame, as it was intended for my friend. All you see is the side of my body, sort of angled. So in better details you see a portion of my back and thigh. My face or any other details are not in the pic. Usually I would just laugh it off, but lately I’ve begun to stress over everything, this included, until I just feel sick. Also the country I live in is not like America. This will sound corny but guys do respect girls more. I’ve never heard of leaked pictures here, and I have friends all over the country. I really don’t care if he shows his friends, its karma for being idiotic. However I’m thinking if it gets out, my future job offers will be damaged. What should I do? Since the pic is tame and this guy is not in my school with people I know, should I be worried?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Take a breath. Now, is this something you can ask your parents for help with? If not your mom, then maybe an aunt or grandmother? I’m sure that they’ll be able to put your mind at ease, and in fact, they might even be able to contact the boy’s family where you sent the photo and ask that they have some kind of assurance that the photo is deleted. Do this as soon as you can because you’ll feel a lot better if you get some adult support and intervention. Lots of times parents can help put a stop to any chaos that comes from this kind of thing. 🙂

Chances are, nothing bad will happen, but it’s a good idea to get an adult involved now, rather than later.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Cece101]

I can talk to my aunt, but I doubt I’ll be able to get his parents number. I asked my best friend what she thought and she said a picture without a face is just a nameless body. Also I don’t see reason why he would spread it as his friends dont know me. Theres not really any bragging power given by saying a girl sent him a tame photo. There really is nothing I can do except hope he is a gentleman.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I agree that he probably won’t re-send the photo, but if you’re really feeling anxious, having an adult in your corner can help. I know you think your aunt won’t be able to find the boy’s phone number, but I actually have confidence that if she felt it was important, she would find a way to get to his parents.

It might be good to tell her anyway, just so she can be aware of what happened [i]in case[/i] something escalates.

Other than that, be careful with your cell phone, and don’t send any more pictures — even to girlfriends — of yourself that you wouldn’t want anyone else to see. 😉 Lesson learned, I trust. 🙂 Next!

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[Cece101]

Thanks April. I told my aunt who assured me she’ll stand by me, and that I shouldn’t panic. And the lesson is learned, I’m just glad the picture wasn’t anything worse.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’ve now done everything right for damage control. So, put on that bikini and go swimming!! (Hopefully you live somewhere warm, and if not, find a heated pool.) 😀

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