[KayKay768]

This is gonna be long but i really need help. I have liked a co worker of mine for quite some time now, about a year ild guess. a few weeks after begining to like him i asked him out on date. he agreed but then canceld at last minute because of “financial” reasons. a month or so he later admitted to me that he said yes but then bailed because he has problems saying no but didnt want a date with me because he had recently gotten out of a very long relationship and was not ready to date again. then about 10 months ago we started talking frequently… we talked for hours every day for about 2 months and within that time period we he admitted he was atrracted to me but never said he “liked” me. we discussed him not wanting a relationship because of “commitment issues” which was said to be from being so hurt after his previous relationship and didnt want a relationship at the time because he was trying to “live it while he was still young”. also during this time of talking he suggested that we could just “fool around” and i turned him down saying i wasnt the type of girl to do that. we basically stopped talking over the phone and through text. but we still flirted occasionally at work and parties and other social events. then 2 weeks ago i decided to take him up on the offer of “fooling around” and he turned me down by saying “i dont think i could just sleep with you” i responded by asking why not but he never texted back. i decided the next day to text him what i really truely thought which was that he did like me and the party while your young thing was just a cover for not wanting to be hurt again. i told him i may be wrong and he may not like me but i didnt think i was wrong and that if he had no interest in me whatso ever than he need to tell me and ild leave him alone. he told me he didnt. my problem here is that my gut still says that he does like me. in the year that this has been going on he has had no other girlfrend that i know. never been “talking” to other girls, never “fooling around” with them, never gushing about other girls. nothing that i know of. (its a small town, everyone knows eveything.) my other problem, if he had no interest, then why flirt and talk and lead me on to thinking he liked me all this time just to tell me he had absolutely no interest? it makes no sense. my gut says he likes me. my gut says he is just afraid of being hurt. what do i do? give up and move on? or try to get him to say what i think is the truth? HELP ME PLEASE!!

[AskApril Masini]

You need a gut transplant. 🙄

If you throw yourself at him any harder than you have been, you’re going to give him a concussion and knock yourself out, too. 😳

He has made it crystal clear he doesn’t want to date you and he doesn’t want to sleep with you. That you don’t believe him and continue to pursue him 😮 is wrong on so many levels.

First of all, NEVER ask a man out on a date. You can flirt with him to let him know you’re interested, but if he doesn’t ask YOU out, he’s not interested. That should be the end of the story.

You desperately need to read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], a book I wrote for women who want to get the guy! It will explain to you how to do it and what you’re doing wrong now. This book is going to be a huge help to you. You can purchase it on the websites for Amazon and Barnes & Noble or at the link above. Read it!

I hope this helps and that you’re able to move on with more success. 😉

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