[DeadRingerSpy]

I’ve had this on my mind for the past few days, and thought maybe I should get some outside advice.

I went to junior high with this girl a few years back for 2 years. Back then I liked her, but being that I was young, in junior high, and had very little knowledge of girls and dating back then, I never bothered with making a move. After junior high was over, I was forced to transfer to the high school I just recently graduated from, and was there for all 4 years of high school. During this time, I haven’t seen this girl or talked to her at all. I never had a problem talking to her in junior high, but I don’t know that I’d say we were ever close friends or anything.

Fast forward to the present. Both this girl and my cousin are going to the same college in the area (my cousin went to the same school we did and graduated with this girl). Because they’re good friends and live close, they usually carpool to school.

Now my cousin moved in with my grandparents a little while ago to be closer to school, so this girl has met my grandparents. I heard through my sister that my grandma has been saying that she wants me and this girl to get married (she’s been trying to set me up with girls since I was probably 10, gotta love grandmas). Now obviously this is a joke, but it got me thinking about this girl again.

I’ve come to realize that I’d gladly ask this girl out now, given the chance. But here comes the hard part. With my own schooling and work, I never get the chance to go visit my grandparents, even though they’re a short drive away. With school being done until January after another week though, I’m gonna try to go down there a few times, but I don’t know when this girl’s there and when she’s not. I also don’t know how she’d respond to me after not having seen each other for 4 years. She’s single, so I don’t think there’s anything really stopping her from saying no, but I don’t know how weird that would be. I’m basically just looking for advice on the whole situation, if it’s possible.

[AskApril Masini]

Get her phone number and give her a call. Tell her that you realize that the two of you haven’t spoken in years (or ever), but that you’ve never forgotten her, and now that your paths are crossing again, you’d love to catch up with her. Chat further on the phone, and if things begin to warm up, tell her that you’d love to take her on a date. Ask her when she’s going to be around and set something up.

I hope that helps — let me know how it goes!

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[DeadRingerSpy]

I appreciate the advice, but I may or may not have hit a small roadblock today. In between taking two finals at my college classes this morning, I headed over there for a visit because it’s only about a 3 or 4 minute drive between both places.

Talking to my grandparents, the subject came up about my recent promotion at work, which included a redone schedule that allowed me to be off for Thanksgiving. My grandma asked if I minded if she invited someone “special” over, and knowing what she was talking about, I said no, I wouldn’t mind at all. She said it was this girl, and I said I knew her from going to school with her a few years back. Then she said something kind of discouraging, something along the lines of “Nah I wouldn’t do that to you, you can pick your own girlfriend”. Figures the time she tries this and I’m finally interested, she doesn’t push it. I still don’t know if she’s even invited, but apparently she probably wouldn’t be able to come anyway because of her huge family.

I also found out that she doesn’t even come to the house when they carpool. They both meet at a different place depending on who’s driving, but she might still come over to hang out every now and then or something. Also, my grandma mentioned something that sounded like my cousin wouldn’t want the two of us to go out, because apparently my cousin “knew what my grandma was trying to do by inviting her over for Thanksgiving”, and my cousin didn’t want her to come for it. Not totally sure what she meant by this, or why she even cares, but whatever.

So at this point, I don’t really know what to do. I’ll be over at my grandparents’ place this Wednesday for most of the day and for Thanksgiving on Thursday, so I’ll try to do my best to get some more information on whether or not this girl comes over or not. At the very least, I just want to see this girl for a few minutes so I can get a quick feeling of whether or not she’d be interested in me at all. I kinda want to subtly push the issue with my cousin or grandma so word could get around to this girl that I’d like to see her, but I don’t want to make it blatantly obvious that I’m dying to go out with this girl. If I could see my cousin or my grandparents more often so the issue might come up again, I’d try it, but with my schedule it’s tough having to be patient for days at a time before I hear anything. I just feel kinda hopeless at the moment, but I’m not giving up as long as there’s still even a small fighting chance here.

[AskApril Masini]

Why don’t you just ask her out like I suggested? ❓

If you continue to [i]make excuses[/i] for not asking her out yourself, instead of acting, you’ll never get a yes or a no from her. 😳 Regrets for never stepping up to the plate in life are a million times worse than any rejection any woman will ever give you.

Ask her out! 😉 And buy the book I wrote for men who want to win with women, Date Out of Your League: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. Read it!! It’s going to help you a lot with learning how to get the girl. 🙂

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