[Anonymous]

Hi
My boyfriend just recently broke up with from being in a relationship for 2 years. We had a long distance relationship, and we play a video game together. He supported me financially due to some crisis in my life. Due to these crisis it lead me into depression. I had some suicidial moments, but also moments of insecuirty and jealousy. I love him with my whole heart, and I never wanted him to leave. He had planned on moving to where I live, but he said I was selfish after he made me dependant off him. I believe he thought he could fix me, but only I can fix myself. I feel so lost and devestated, he was my one, we had future plans of marriage, and children. And now it’s all gone. I am alone over 1k miles away from him. Not knowing what to do, I want him back and I was even of thinking of moving. But it’s all so complicated, I don’t understand how he could just in a second stop loving me. Please someone give me some insight. I am desperate for advice. I don’t need his money. I can make it on my own. All I want is him to love.

[ankit]

hey girl,i understand what you are felling right now , but this is life . You have to bear all this . See , don’t matter how much you love him but if he don’t to live his life with you , better you stay away . Suppose after marriage he do this to you then what you do . So,its better to ask him once otherwise move on in life .Time will heal all wounds .
Don’t worry , have faith.

[kai]

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[Sally]

He didn’t stop loving you in a second. What happened is slower and sadder than that. He cared, maybe even deeply, but the relationship turned into something heavy. When one person becomes the emotional and financial support, especially during depression and suicidal moments, it can start to feel less like a partnership and more like pressure. That doesn’t make you bad. It means things got unbalanced.

You’re right about one thing that matters a lot: only you can fix you. He couldn’t do that for you, no matter how much he wanted to. Some people leave not because they don’t care, but because they feel scared, overwhelmed, or powerless.

Right now, please don’t make big moves like relocating just to win him back. Focus on stabilizing yourself first. Get support where you are. Talk to someone regularly. If those dark thoughts come back, please reach out for immediate help — in the U.S. you can call or text 988 any time. You deserve help and safety.
Losing the future you imagined hurts like grief. But this ending doesn’t mean you’re unlovable or broken. It means this chapter couldn’t carry both of you.You don’t need to figure everything out tonight. Just stay. One step at a time.

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