[kaydee88]

Hi April,

Your advice to me previously was really helpful! But the crazy thing is that the tennis player I told you about earlier actually has a girlfriend. He didn’t deny the fact that he has one but I’m just wondering why he still calls me and asks me to hang out with him and his friends sometimes. He doesn’t really flirt with me so much one time we were together but it seemed like we’re a couple to everyone else even though we weren’t so close to each other that time.

I asked why he isn’t with his girlfriend and he just told me that the girl didn’t have much time for him because she’s busy with her thesis work and I told him that he could’ve been the one to take the initiative to visit her or make her feel his presence too. He just said that she lives too far (super lame answer) so he can’t really do it and besides he said the girl is leaving the country soon so he wasn’t sure if he wants to have a long-distance relationship.

What I really want him to realize right now is that he shouldn’t be messing around with me like this because even though I clearly like him I wouldn’t want to be girlfriend number two so it’s totally fine if it doesn’t work out with us because I want him to be considerate of his girlfriend’s and my feelings. I don’t really know what to tell him when I see him so please help me come up with the words to say. I want us to be friends but I don’t want him to cheat on his girl.

Thank you so much,
Kaydee88

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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[kaydee88]

Hi April,

I’m having a few difficulties with my current situation right now. Here’s the thing, a week ago while I was in one special class in the university, I saw this really cute guy whom I guessed was an athlete coz he was really tall and kinda bulky. It was really unexpected because I noticed him checking me out but I didn’t want to assume right away so I just threw a few glances back at him just to let him know I am interested too. Lunch came and he stood right beside me while we were lining up to get some food in the cafeteria and he went like “Hey classmate, can I line up with you?” so I agreed then we talked and separated when we got the food to attend to our friends.

When we came back to class, we already talked about some stuff and I asked him if he plays any sport and said he was a tennis player. A few hours later, we were grouped together for an activity which gave us more time to get to know a little bit about each other. I joked about his sport and challenged him to tell me one thing worth bragging about in his career and he hinted that he was like the number one in that field. He told me to google him if I still don’t believe him and HE HANDED ME OVER HIS CELLPHONE and asked for my number and asked me to text him as soon as I find out something interesting about him on google. So because I was too excited, I googled his name as soon as I got home and found out that he was indeed a tennis superstar and he is currently ranked number 1 in our country (Philippines).

Anyway, I texted him and he called me up right away and we talked a little bit because I wasn’t home that time. A few minutes after we hung up, he texted me right away and we continued texting until we fell asleep. The next day, I texted him to wish him luck for his competition in Thailand and he prolonged our texting session until we fell asleep again. Then the next morning, before his flight, I texted him again to wish him a safe trip. He said “Thank you, take care always.”

With all those things considered, did I come up too desperate or clingy? Is he interested in me? Will he ever let me know when he comes back (which I know is on Sunday and I already miss him)? Are we going to have a chance for a relationship?

I am really head over heels for this guy even before he told me about his “superstar” status. I want us to be able to go out and have a date when he gets back but I don’t know how we can do that. I forced myself to resist the temptation to add him up on facebook because I don’t wanna look very desperate and I don’t want him to think that I’m just “one-of-the-girls” who only wants to be a part of his fame. Please tell me what to do. Thank you so much!

Your advice to me previously was really helpful! But the crazy thing is that the tennis player I told you about earlier actually has a girlfriend. He didn’t deny the fact that he has one but I’m just wondering why he still calls me and asks me to hang out with him and his friends sometimes. He doesn’t really flirt with me so much one time we were together but it seemed like we’re a couple to everyone else even though we weren’t so close to each other that time.

I asked why he isn’t with his girlfriend and he just told me that the girl didn’t have much time for him because she’s busy with her thesis work and I told him that he could’ve been the one to take the initiative to visit her or make her feel his presence too. He just said that she lives too far (super lame answer) so he can’t really do it and besides he said the girl is leaving the country soon so he wasn’t sure if he wants to have a long-distance relationship.

What I really want him to realize right now is that he shouldn’t be messing around with me like this because even though I clearly like him I wouldn’t want to be girlfriend number two so it’s totally fine if it doesn’t work out with us because I want him to be considerate of his girlfriend’s and my feelings. I don’t really know what to tell him when I see him so please help me come up with the words to say. I want us to be friends but I don’t want him to cheat on his girl.

Thank you so much,
Kaydee88

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[April Masini, your AskApril]

Actions speak louder than words, so rather than tell him your feelings 😕 just change your own behavior. If you don’t want to date him because he has a girlfriend already, then don’t. If it’s too hard for you to be around him because you like him so much, but you don’t want to date him, then don’t hang around where he’s going to be.

Whether or not you agree with the way he treats his girlfriend, the bottom line is that that’s HIS business, not yours. So focus on yourself and what you want and can get — for you.

I hope that helps — let me know how it goes.

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