Thank you for telling me your ages. Men at age 27 usually have healthy sex drives. So unless he’s got a medical problem, it sounds like you think his porn hobby has gotten out of control and is now the reason that he’s not interested in having sex with you. If he’s using all his sexual energy with porn, and none with you then it’s possible he’s developing an addiction. Porn addiction is usually measured by the interference with real life, and if he’s refusing to have sex with you, but he’s masturbating to porn, he’s definitely got a porn problem because it’s eroding his relationship with you. He’s the only one who can decide to stop “using”. But unless he does decide to get help with this problem, expect more of the same. The only other thing that could be going on, which you haven’t mentioned, is that the relationship may be waning. Either he’s growing tired of the relationship or bored with it — or there’s someone else he’s interested in or even seeing. But I’m guessing from what you’ve written that porn is the problem.
You’re going to have to be frank with him and tell him that he’s got a problem with porn. Most addicts deny their problem, so be prepared. If he doesn’t want to get help, this may be the beginning of the end of the relationship, but the best thing you can do is to let him know that you’re concerned about his porn habit and feel that it’s getting in the way of your sex life.
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