[Anonymous]

Im 17, i was with this guy for 9 months and everything was perfect. He treated me the best id ever been treated and i fell in love with him. All of a sudden he started getting distant from me and i didnt understand why, and one day he came round to talk and told me he no longer knows what he wants and was confused. So i said we could be friends while he thinks things through. About a week after i found pictures of him and his ex girlfriend together on a night out, which hed gone on while we were together. He explained things by lieing and i forgave him. He then asked me to get back into a relationship with him, and i took him back. A few weeks later i found out that he had been to a pub for a few drinks with his other ex, but nothing had happened between them, so i forgave him for that to. But its been hard to trust him since we got back together. So i made a fake account on facebook once i had found texts on his phone from a few girls. I added him and he started to chat me up, and denied he was with me and that he just didnt love me anymore. But when i confronted him about it, he told me he knew it was me the whole time and just wanted to get me to admit it. But even though he knew it was me, i lied to him and said the girl does exist, i just borrowed her account and he is still chatting the fake girl up. He tells me he loves me but does this, and im confused. I love him to bits. A few nights ago i told him i cant take it anymore and i said i was leaving him. I told him not to bother contacting me again but he doesnt stop ringing and asking me to get back and i always give in. Any advice please? 🙁

[kai]

Hey immortal, like i mentioned to several other posters — April has told everyone that [u]the welcome area is not to be used as the Q & A advice forum[/u]. it even says “[b]DO NOT post your questions[/b]” here, when you go to sign up.

i suggest you delete the questions you posted in the welcome forum and repost them in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum instead. i doubt you’ll get a response if you leave them in the welcome area.

[AskApril Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

This guy is cheating. Over and over. And then lying, flipping things, and pulling you back in when you try to leave. None of that is love, even if he says the word a lot.
Someone who loves you doesn’t keep secret photos with exes, doesn’t message other girls, doesn’t deny you exist, and doesn’t keep doing the same thing after you forgive them. The fake account didn’t create this problem. It just showed you what was already there.

The reason you keep giving in when he calls isn’t because you’re weak. It’s because you’re attached and hopeful, and he knows exactly how to pull on that. That’s why he won’t stop calling. He wants access, not commitment.

Here’s the hard truth: he will not change while he still has you. Every time you go back, he learns he can do whatever he wants and still keep you.
The only way this stops hurting is if you stop answering. Block him if you have to. Ask a friend to help hold you to it. Cry, be sad, miss him all of that is normal. But staying will keep breaking you.

You’re 17. This is not the love story you’re meant to carry into adulthood. One day you’ll look back and be so glad you walked away now, not later.
You deserve peace. Not this constant ache.

[Member]

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