[ilikesake]

Hello, I’m new to this so I’ll just get right into my situatio 🙂
A decade and a half ago I met a boy when I was in grade school. We were really close until I moved away 3 years later.
After about 11 years, like fate, I found one of my old schoolmates who told me that she and that boy had been looking for me for the past 11 years. I unfortunately had forgotten about him and most of my close friends from back then because of depression abuse and stress I went through at home with my mother.
When we finally started talking, he was VERY depressed that I had forgotten him and had told me that he and his mother moved to the US years prior. We ‘tried’ the long distance thing but failed. Although, I had fallen for him as he had me. We just decided we needed more and decided it was best to stop talking for a while because it as distracting.
In that time, I dated a man for the first time and matured. In 2009 we started talking again on facebook when I found out he had a girlfriend.
I decided to visit him in the US this year and see if the feelings I had were still there (I broke up with my ex in Jan) and it was like we were kids again. I realised I was in love with this man.
Here’s the problem. I live in another country but am in school to get my degree. In four years I will be living in the same state as him. I do not wish to tell anyone to ‘wait for me’ as I know this is not reasonable. But I want to know if I am being ignorant. I know he feels strongly toward me because there are several actions and statements that proves this. I am dating others and he does the same but is it wrong to believe that he may very well be my future?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I wish I had a working crystal ball — but I don’t! 🙁 I can’t tell you what the future will bring, but I can tell you that right now, since you’re both in different states and countries, and will be for four years, a long distance relationship won’t work — especially since you’ve already tried and failed at it. You can wait for him, but it’s not very realistic, and it’s entirely unfair to ask him to wait for you.

My advice is to get on with your lives and when you’re geographically compatible, get back in touch and see if the timing worked. Now, it isn’t, but maybe one day…..

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[ilikesake]

Thank you for responding! And I agree, its not a simple situation that deserves a simple solution. I also agree with your advice. I told him to do his thing and ill do my thing and down the road we’ll see what happens.

I’m glad I’m making the right choice.

Thanks again!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You made a good choice. I wish you lots of luck!

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