[MandaMaggotx]

So I’ve been in a non-committal and unlabeled type of relationship with this guy for 7 months. We both mutually decided we didn’t want a relationship, and honestly…. It’s been going great. After we fool around, he is still sweet and polite. He cuddles me, he talks to me, and he treats me like… Well his girlfriend!

I’m fine with what we have because it’s lasted longer than my actual relationships.I like being free and able to keep my options open. I am young yet after all. But sometimes…. He puzzles me. Not long ago, he told me he loved me. I honestly didn’t know how to respond. I like this guy a lot. Don’t get me wrong…. But love is a HUGE step. We aren’t even an actual couple! He also gets very jealous when I see other guys. I went out with another guy Monday night and got rudely rejected and he jumped on the chance and literally BEGGED for me to come over the next morning before work to “cheer me up”. I didn’t really want to chance missing work so I fought him on it all night and said I’d text him if I would make it. Long story short, I did. It was amazing. And we after got personal and discussed our past relationships….He then told me he isn’t ready to commit and I assured him neither am I. But he has me extremely confused!! Can you tell me if i’m crazy or is he really saying something different than what his mouth says??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s sending you mixed messages because you’re in a “mixed up” relationship. You’re sharing intimacy (not just sex) but telling each other you’re not ready for a relationship, and yet you’ve created one. Dating a man for seven months is a long time to go “without a relationship”. In fact, it’s impossible. Things will get even more emotionally confusing when he starts letting you know that he’s dating and sleeping with other women besides you — for now, it seems like you’re the one who’s doing that, but not him.

If you behave in a way that’s mixed, you’re going to receive and give mixed messages.

I hope that helps you understand what’s going on here.

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[MandaMaggotx]

ok well now this may be a problem as well,

So in my other post, i told you about a guy i’d been intimate with for 7 monhs now. and how i believe he may be developing feelings. I as well, kindof am developing feelings for him too. But I can’t let myself commit. I believed for a long time that it was fear but now…. I’m thinking it’s something else….

I have a best friend. I dated him for 3 months. It was the most perfect relationship ever… We broke up because I was young and stupid. I let my family ruin it because they disliked him. We remained best friends but never tried to rekindle. I wanted him to take me back so badly…. But I guess he just couldn’t trust me. And now, he’s getting kicked out from his ex’s house. [The person he dated after me] He has no family to stay with here so he’s leaving to florida.

I’d let him stay with me. [He’s my best friend, i’d do anything for him] however, i’m living with my uncle and i’m not even on the lease so my uncle is already risking it with me being there.

It hurts so much because i know I still want him in my life, another chance but I think he really wants to be with the ex that’s kicking him out. [why? i cant for the love of me understand. They cheated on him, never comfort him, pretty much causes him to freakout.] But i just can’t let go. I love him.

The advice i’m asking for is, why do i still want him so badly? I know there’s no chance so why am i wasting my time?
How can i make myself move on?

HELP!

[btw, any advice at all, would be great]

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]The advice i’m asking for is, why do i still want him so badly? I know there’s no chance so why am i wasting my time?
How can i make myself move on?

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The reason you want someone who doesn’t want you is because you’ve got some unhealthy tendencies. As long as you nurture them you’ll continue to look for men who aren’t good for you and surround yourself with other unhealthy situations. The reason you’re wasting your time is because you haven’t decided to live a healthy and happy life. When you do, you’ll realize that certain people impede that goal. If you want to stop attracting the wrong types of men you have to value yourself and decide to only associate with people who are healthy and appropriate. When you decide to live a productive and happy life you’ll attract other people who are also happy and productive.

I hope that answers your questions.

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