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I’ve been dating this guy for 3 years. We’re crazy about each other. But there is that one big problem. His parents hate me.

To better understand this, my ex-best-friend started dating his brother a few months after we started dating. We were long-distance at that time because of college. She may have said nasty things about me but I am not fully sure. The guy I’ve been seeing claims my first impression didn’t help. I was shy, so I smiled and waved and they just smiled back. Recently, his parents kicked him out and rather than living with me and my family he chose to live with his brother and brother’s girlfriend as a favor because they needed help with rent. However, when moving in there they said I could not be apart of his life if he is going to live there. I apologized to my ex-best-friend for not wanting to be her friend but she is still upset. She is the perfect girlfriend in the eyes of my guys parents and I am a monster. I don’t understand because I don’t do drugs, never cheated, and am in college (the brothers girlfriend does drugs and has cheated).

Should I just give up and move on? It feels like the nicer I am to his family, the more negative their image of me becomes.

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a little more information… i just turned 21 and hes 20. we have talked about marriage and kids and all that jazz but want to wait a few more years because were young. he is my first relationship, first kiss, first handhold, first everything. we tried living together for 6 months, but we had crazy roommates and had to move out to get away from them. its really expensive to get a place here too, especially while im still in school. family is really important to him. its all he has other than me and hes afraid theyll outcast him if he chooses to be with me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since this is your first relationship and you just turned 21, I don’t think this is going to be your last relationship. It sounds like there is nothing wrong with you, but that his parents have some problems with[i] him[/i]. I’m not sure why they kicked him out of the house, but there must have been a reason that didn’t have to do with you. Since his brother offered him a place to live under the condition that you not be part of his life — and he accepted that offer, he seems to be putting his family ahead of you. 😳 I know you’re trying to get his parents to like you, but you really need to focus on the relationship you have with him. My advice is that if he isn’t willing to put you first and foremost, it’s time for you to move on.

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