I went to high school with this girl, then we both ended up going to the same college and living in the same appt. complex. back in high school we were not friends but knew each other. Now that we are here with alot of our friends about 8 of us me and her have been hanging out alot. I’ve been tutoring her in ochem and spend a good deal of time with her. She is the nice/good hearted type which makes her hard to read, but she follows me around every wednesday when we party. She tells me how much i have helped her by tutoring her, she went from failing to passing and this class is very important. She invited me to dinner with our best friend last week (ya we have the same bestie) and this week she asked if i wanted to go to a penn state football with her. She has came to me with her problems and we have long talks often. My question is what should i do on the date to let her know i like, i know a kiss isn’t in line, we both find that stuff highly special and im a bit of a shy guy. Can i try and hold her hand or is that too much, it seems that for some ppl it means more than a kiss. we never talked about our fellings for one another but i think we both have an idea but neither of us want to say it, if holding hands at the game is too much what else should i do?
Holding hands is definitely a good idea. Putting your hand on her back and guiding her to a seat and letting your hand linger. Putting your arm around her shoulders works, too. Touching her hair or her face is a good way of showing her you like her, too!
I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes!
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Well she text me and invited me up to her place to watch tv and we talked (mostly her) about her problems, she has been coming to me when she needs someone to talk to so now i’m afraid im in the friend zone. I dont think we are going to the football game, kinda long story but its nothing bad, everything is ok. I room with her ex and she went on for an hour about how much he hurt her and she told me everything, i felt so bad for her. She constantly played with her and we talked about how we think of love and we have the same values like we both take things as having a special meaning. Do you think I could ask her to a date or am i in the friend zone? She has had so much trouble getting over her last relationship (they dated for 4 years), I fell like I’m supposed to be there for her and if i asked her out and things got messed up between us then i’ve let her down and wont be there for her. In other words, does she really like me as a brother or do you think she would date me. I am truly a very nice guy, and she comes to me to talk because she knows that and she trusts me.
You’re only in the friend zone if you agree to put yourself there. In other words, if you ask her out, you’re taking yourself out of any possible friend zone. It’s really your choice if that’s where you want to be or not — and the best way to get out is to take her out.
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