[Anonymous]

I am into an online relationship for 5 years, and we met last February for the first time, as for me things went great as expected, then after his 20 days here he went to Thailand and did the same with another girl. After the his vacation was over he said it was me he wants, i love him so I continue with the relationship But things were not the same anymore, I become paranoid and thinks he can possible do the same thing again. So we did talked about it and thats when I found out that I hurt him big time. He said, his first day with me hurt him so much for he wake up 3 am in the morning to see me chatting with an online friend, and thats one thing he can never forgive me for. He said he did not planned it to fall in love with someone just thinks that he and her have more things in common. I know that she is good for him but still hurts so much to think I can not have him again. I still love him so much and I wish he can give me another chance … but I know he won’t but find it very difficult to move on. He knew how much I love him just that he is the kind of guy that wont come back. I need to move on, just don’t know where to start. Thank you very much.

[Anonymous]

Actually I don’t think chatting is a big crime, I have not hide it from him for I am not doing something wrong. Yet I never knew about his plan of being with one woman in Thailand. So now I am being blamed for something not at all my fault, yes I have my share of it but he have his share too.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Wait a minute — you’ve conducted an online relationship for FIVE YEARS?! — and just met in February — and you’re surprised that he’s got other women with whom he’s also involved in the same way? 😯 Wake up and smell the coffee. 😕 If a guy doesn’t ask you out on a date after about three weeks of meeting online, it’s time to realize he’s not that serious about you.

If you digest that, it should be easy to move on. You need to stop fooling yourself and start dating in real life — not on the internet. The websites where people meet are wonderful TOOLS but they’re not venues to conduct an entire relationship or even the majority of a relationship.

I hope that helps. I’m sorry you’re hurt, but if you don’t accept these facts about internet dating, you’ll be hurt again and again.

You should probably read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right. You can order the book on Barnes & Noble and Amazon or you can get it right here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/dating-advice-books.html[/url].

[Anonymous]

I understand that it should have not taken this long but, well it did work quite well with us then. Just that the outcome is something we both did not expect. Yeah I guess all I can do now is accept and move on, valuable lessons learned here. Thank I will check the book! 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote] Just that the outcome is something we both did not expect… [/quote]

If you follow my advice, you’ll understand that any relationship with guy who doesn’t ask you out after about three weeks of meeting you online, WILL end up like this. Five years online without a date is pretty unusual and the sooner you get this, the easier it will be for you to forget someone who was stringing you along — he was never ever a potential Mr. Right. 😕

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