[wiz0130]

so i have been telling my girlfreind of 16 years for the past year that i was unhappy and didnt feel loved. she ignored me. so for the past 6 months or so ive been telling her it would end our relationship if it wasnt addressed. she ignored me. a girl at work made me feel good with some interested and i almost cheated on her. i told her and said it had to be over. she says she can change but i feel like it is forced being that she didnt care when i was asking. i think it is over. we have two kids and this is the hardest decision ive ever made. what do you think?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

When you have children together, the stakes change. I’m sure you know this. It’s no longer just about you. You have to put them first. So, before jumping ship, let’s look at the problem.

If you’re feeling unhappy and unloved, you have to figure out what your part in the equation is. What can you do to make your life better? And what can you do to make your relationship better. Sometimes when you want to feel loved, the best medicine is to make the other person feel loved. It’s easy to lose the romance after 16 years and two children together, so you have to work to get it back.

Some of the small things you can do that will have big pay offs, are to bring her flowers, have date night regularly to reconnect, infuse your sex life with new energy, take a mini vacation together, make sure you’re cleaned up and well groomed and smell good, and tell her how much you love and want her. My guess is that if you’re unhappy, and depressed, you’re neglecting not just yourself, but your girlfriend, too.

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