[alex_sportslife]

I never get attached to people easily, but somehow I started dating a girl at university with no real intentions. At first, it seemed casual, but she convinced me we were “meant to be,” and we both got really emotional, professing love constantly. After a couple of months, I realised I wasn’t ready and decided to step away. The breakup was hard lots of tears and heavy emotions but she insisted we could work things out later.
During those two months, we had our share of fights, most for silly reasons. Even though our relationship felt intense, it was short, and I never imagined she would move on so quickly. Lately, I found out she already has a new boyfriend. This hit me hard because she used to ask me if I was moving on, while claiming she wasn’t ready to either. She said we would tell each other everything, and that if I found someone else, I should let her know.
She explained that she got unexpectedly emotional when the new guy, who was one of her best friends, confessed feelings for her. Suddenly, she seemed to believe he was the love of her life. In less than three weeks, she went from breaking up with me to being in a new relationship, and her behaviour toward me changed drastically. She started calling me names, picking fights, calling me pathetic, and even claiming I became a psycho. She’s popular at our university, and now I hear she’s saying things about me to her friends, trying to hurt me indirectly.
This was my first real relationship, and being a university soccer player, it feels impossible to find someone genuine who isn’t motivated by popularity. I’m trying to move on, but everything reminds me of her, I feel anxious just thinking about her, and I dream about her almost every night. I know I’ll see her around campus next year, and I’m terrified it will make things worse. I keep hoping the saying “dating one of your best friends never works” is true and that I’ll eventually get over her.

[Isabella Jones]

I can really feel how much this has shaken you. First heartbreaks cut deep, especially when someone moves on so quickly—it makes you question whether any of it was real. But please remember: her pace of moving on doesn’t erase what you felt, and it doesn’t make your feelings any less valid. Some people jump into something new not because they’re over it, but because they can’t stand the silence that follows loss. You, on the other hand, are sitting with your emotions and facing them—that’s the harder, braver path.

The way she’s speaking about you now says more about her need to justify her choices than it does about who you are. Don’t let her noise define your story. Keep your dignity, focus on your sport, and allow time to dull the edges of this hurt. Healing isn’t about forgetting her; it’s about remembering yourself again. 💛

What’s one small thing—outside of her and the relationship—that still makes you feel like you? Maybe that’s where your healing begins.

[Heart Whisperer]

Man, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It’s tough when something that felt deep turns out to be so complicated, especially with all the mixed signals. I get why finding out she’s already with someone else hit you hard, especially after everything she said about not being ready to move on. That’s a lot to process.

It sounds like she’s really turned the situation around on you, calling you names and trying to hurt you. I know it stings, especially since this was your first real relationship. It’s also rough knowing you’ll see her around campus next year—it makes it feel like there’s no escape.

But honestly, the best thing you can do right now is focus on yourself. Moving on won’t happen overnight, but the more you give yourself space and stop hoping things will go back to how they were, the easier it will get. Her actions and the way she’s treating you say more about her than they do about you. It’s okay to feel anxious and to have tough days, but don’t let her behavior define you.

I know it’s hard, but eventually, the feelings will start to fade. Trust that you’ll find someone who respects you and isn’t just motivated by popularity. You’ll get past this, and she won’t hold power over your peace of mind forever.

[KeishaMartin]

I hear you, and I can feel how raw and heavy this is for you. First heartbreaks leave a mark that doesn’t just fade overnight, and seeing someone you loved move on so quickly can feel like a punch to the gut. It shakes your sense of reality like maybe everything you shared wasn’t real but the truth is, your feelings were real, and that matters. You experienced love and connection, and that’s never wasted.

What’s making it harder is the way she’s turning things on you now, trying to hurt you and change the narrative. That’s not about you it’s about her coping with her own choices. Don’t let her words steal your sense of worth or make you doubt yourself. You’re not pathetic, psycho, or anything she says. You’re human, processing heartbreak, and doing your best to move forward.

Seeing her around campus will be tough, no doubt. Give yourself permission to set boundaries—even if that means avoiding unnecessary interaction, keeping distance, and protecting your peace. Lean into things that remind you who you are: soccer, friends, hobbies, goals, small routines that feel like yours. Those are the anchors that help your heart heal.

The ache will linger for a while, and that’s okay. Healing isn’t linear, and it’s not about forgetting her—it’s about finding yourself again, feeling grounded in your own life, and reclaiming the energy that heartbreak tried to steal.
Tell me—what’s one small thing in your day-to-day right now that still feels like you, separate from her or the past? That’s the thread we can start pulling on to help you move forward.

[PassionSeeker]

I get how much this hurts. It’s wild how quickly someone can flip the script, especially when you’re still trying to figure out what happened. And the way she’s acting? That’s all on her, not you. People who act like that are just scared of facing their own mess, so they try to make you feel small. Don’t let it stick to you.
You deserve way more than someone who doesn’t treat you with respect. It’s normal to feel off and anxious right now, but I promise, you’ll get past this. It’s going to sting for a while, but you’ll grow from it. Don’t let her actions take up any more of your headspace than they already have. You’ve got more to offer than what she could ever see. Keep your head up.

[AskApril Masini]

You broke up with her, but ………..wait a second……… You didn’t expect her to move on fast? How long do you wish she was stuck in the breakup pain you caused?

Nah, that’s not how this works. You made your decision, now let her make hers.

Also, your story isn’t adding up.

First you said you stepped away, later, you said she broke up with you? Which one is it?

You insinuated that while she’s out there having a great time with her new boyfriend, she still finds time to pick up her phone just to throw nasty words at you? Somehow, I doubt that.

There is a lot more to your story that I’m sure you omitted on purpose.

But, know this, you need to stop wasting your time hoping something bad happens to her current relationship, you need to move on now.

You said you weren’t ready for a relationship anyways.

[Member]

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