[collegexlaydee]

i met this guy on an online dating site, and i really need your opinion about this whole situation. he contacted me and we started talking a good amount and then he invited me over one night. i went over there, and he is honestly such a nice guy. we literally talked and chilled the whole night and we ended up sleeping together. i know it was only the first time i met him, but it just felt right. after that night we talked again and i asked him to chill again. this time his friend came over, and i brought my friend. our friends hit it off, and we chilled the whole night again. at the end of the night we slept together again. i spent the night and the next day he called me to see if i had fun and to make sure i got home safely. the third time we hung out it was the 4 of us again, and we chilled the entire night and slept together at the end of the night. he is such a nice guy, and i enjoy spending time with him but i guess i feel like he just chills with me to get laid at the end of the night. but the other night i was drunk and texted him saying “need to vent” and he said “whats up” i said “hard to explain” he said “try to..whats on ur mind, im up” and i said “im trying” and then i fell asleep and he called me but i missed the call. the next morning he texted me saying “whats wrong? youre scaring me tell me please” so things like that makes me feel like he cares but then again he could just be a really nice guy. and i never hear from him unless he wants to chill..so obviously he just wants to hookup. ughh i don’t know, and i don’t know what to do bc i don’t wanna look crazy, so i’m trying not to contact him, and maybe he will contact me to hang out or something soon?

what do you think? how do you think he feels? & what should i do?

[desi123]

I think he cares. Otherwise he would not have been concerned about your text. The next time you hang out, leave without staying the night. Make up an excuse like you aren’t feeling well. If he calls the next day to see how you are feeling, then it’s all good.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Look at it from his point of view: You met a guy online and he invites you over to his house. He doesn’t ask you on a date, which would show you that he wants you as a girlfriend, he invites you over to chill out. Then you have sex with him the very first time you’ve ever laid eyes on him. You’ve now set the tone for the relationship.

Then instead of waiting to see if he’ll ask you out on a date, you invite him back to your house to chill out and then you have sex with him again, the second time you ever met with him in your life. So, now you’ve reinforced the pattern in this relationship. He’s going to expect more of the same because you’ve made it okay.

Suddenly, you decide to vent. This is entirely out of the blue, and makes you look a little crazy for changing the game out of nowhere.

So here’s what I can advise you. If you want a boyfriend who thinks you’re special — enough to date and not just hang out and sleep with — then you have to act like the kind of woman who deserves that. That means that you don’t hang out with guys you meet on dating websites and you don’t sleep with them on the first date. You’ll be able to tell if a guy wants to date you — if he does!

If you want more of this type of advice, and tricks, tips and advice to getting the guy (and not just throwing yourself at him, which I’m sure you didn’t realize you were doing), then you should buy and read Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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