About a month ago I started dating an amazing girl. We saw each other every day for two weeks straight. We had a strong emotional connection, and even though we were incredibly attracted to each other physically, we have yet to consummate the relationship. After being together every day for that first two weeks, we had to be apart for a few days while she tended to some family and work issues. We hardly had any contact for those days, but we at least texted each other once a day. We were finally set to see each other again after almost a week when she found out her cousin died of a heroin overdose. She is 33 and her cousin was 29, so he was younger and they spent their childhoods together. Apparently they were pretty close. Of course I knew that our pending date would probably not happen, at least not as planned. When the day, came I texted that if she wanted to get away from everything for a few hours, we could. She texted back:
“Listen I just need my space right now. I need this time for myself and my family. I am very angry today and I don’t feel like talking. I don’t expect anyone to try and understand.”
I replied, “I’ll leave you alone.”
Now I’m not sure what to do. I know that normally when a girl asks for space you just have to leave her alone until she contacts you. But with these extreme circumstances I’m not sure if that is the right move here. I texted her once in the middle of the week just to say hi and that I missed her and she did not respond. I just don’t know if I should let her be completely or if I should make an attempt to be there for her. I can wait as long as it takes because I really like this girl and I think that we have a future together, but if she needs me, I need to know the best way to make myself available for her. If I just let her be, how long should I wait before contacting her or even moving on? I don’t want to move on, but not being with her has made me a mess, and I can’t function like this. What should I do? Am I looking too much into this? It’s only been a week since her cousin died. Do I just need to wait?
