Thanks in advance for reading my post. I really need to come up with a way to forget him.
I met him a few months ago as part of my job to work together on a project. He’s married and has a child. At first, I wasn’t really interested in him, but just thought he’s handsome and great to work with. Over the time, I’ve had high respect for him because he’s very intelligent, honest, very willing to listen, genuinely cares about his work and has a great attitude. Though I know he’s not perfect, he has all these great qualities that I admire. Also, we have things in common that we both have similar personalities and same values. He also seems to enjoy working with me and values my opinions. I think we have an unspoken understanding and respect for each other. By seeing him a lot and getting to know him (and that he’s gorgeous makes it way worse!), I find myself being attracted to him and thinking about him a lot. It’s not like I can’t sleep and eat and get distracted from my work. I am very busy and still do my work with great care and hard work. But he’s always in the background on my mind, and it’s just a really hard situation for me since I know that I can’t date him and yet find myself admiring and loving him. I might be totally wrong, but I think he’s also at least a little bit, if not to a large extent, attracted to me by the way he looks at me and interacts with me.
It really really sucks that he’s the first guy that I feel very connected to, but not available.There’s no chance for me at all to get to know him outside of our work relationship. And I know that I shouldn’t feel this way for a married guy who has a child. I do feel guilty that I’m feeling this way about him. And I don’t hate his wife; I’m sure he loves her very much, and I would never disrupt someone else’s relationship or family. I don’t intend at all to be involved with him as long as he’s married. He already has a beautiful life with someone else, and I just want to see him happy and wish all the best for him.
Since I still have to see him for work for quite a while in the future, I just want to come up with some ways for how to get rid of my feelings for him. Sometimes I really wish that he’s a lot older than me and just average-looking. I would just have pure respect for him then.
Please help me with any of your thoughts and insights. I would really appreciate it.
Thank you very much.
