[Boomersooner1]

I go to lunch to this catfish buffet place every like two or three weeks with my dad, brother, and uncle. I have always been interested in a waitress that works there because I find her attractive and when she stops by the table she always seems really nice. I have always wanted to talk to her and try to get to know her but I am kind of shy and I really just dont know how to go about it. She only comes by the table once while your there because it is pretty busy but I never say anything and plus im sitting right there with my family. I have never really talked to her but we have made eye contact plenty of times if that means anything at all. But I just wanted to ask, what is the best way to go about talking to her in that situation? Or should I go back another time by myself and try something??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Start by flirting! 😎 Eye contact is the first step. A great smile in her direction is another one. Compliment her (between her taking orders!) on her beauty, her grace, her handwriting on the check — anything! 😉 If you feel like she’s giving you positive feedback in the way of a similar smile or she’s throwing some charm in your direction, then it’s your turn to ask her out on a date. You can try to take her aside — or catch her between work and a break. Or you can come by the restaurant during the week and ask what her hours are or how to reach her, so you can either get an opportunity to ask her on a date in person, or by calling her or slipping her romantic note. If you want to really be bold, come in by yourself to eat and make sure you get a table in her section so that she waits on you — then you’ll have lots of time to ask her out!

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Boomersooner1]

Well last Thursday I finally got enough courage to go in to the restaurant at lunch by myself and see what happens. And it actually went pretty well I think. I talked to her a couple times and she came and talked to me once. Which went good and is more than all of the previous times I have been in the restaurant combined. I left the place on a good note by leaving a good tip, told her to have a good weekend, and she was smiling as I left the place. So now I was curious, When should I go back? Should I go back this Thursday, which would be one week later, or give it some more time in between and go next week? And once I do go back, should I just keep building more conversation with her and wait to ask her for her number, Or should I ask her for her number soon?? Also, what would be the best way to ask her for her number??

[jade]

Just freakin’ ask her.

Oops, sorry to be so impatient. 🙂 But when we women kind of know you like us, but then you do [i][b]nothing[/b][/i], we’re like Drew Barrymore in [i]Fifty First Dates[/i] when she comes out of the restaurant with what’s-his-name. After a long long flirting session at the restaurant, he says goodbye and walks to his car, having [i][b]not[/b][/i] asked her out. She’s like, “Are you seriously kidding?!?…”

or

in the words of Nike, “Just do it!”

I suggest going back for lunch by yourself sometime toward the early part of next week. Talk a few times like you did — light conversation when she takes your order, for example — and then if it goes as well as the first time, when she gives you the check, just before you leave, ask for her number. Say, “Would you like to have dinner some time?” If she says yes, then ask, “Can I get your number?” Of course, if the two of you haven’t exchanged names, that would be a good time to tell her your name and just smile. Then call the next day (that way she knows you’re interested which is flattering to a woman) and ask her to dinner that Saturday evening. Research a nice place where you’d want to spend a few hours having dinner. That’s all. Simple. You just need practice. It gets easier. And remember, there’s something very endearing to a woman about a man who is a little nervous but follows through and steps up to the plate. We know you get nervous and we wouldn’t really want to have to do the asking ourselves. The fact that you might be a bit nervous shows us you aren’t one of those players, which is reassuring to us. 😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I answered your question in my last post! And [b]jade[/b] gave you very good advice.

You should buy the book I wrote for men who want dating advice, Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. It’s going to help you a lot! 😀

[Boomersooner1]

Well I went in today and she came and talked to me for about 5-10 minutes and it was going well so I asked if she would like to go to dinner some time and she was like ” Welllllll I have a boyfriend” and I guess she has been with him for 2 years now. But she seemed interested and I thought for sure she would say yes. Anything I should do now or just move on?? Cause I do go eat there sometimes with my co workers.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Please buy the book I suggested, Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

I can help you a lot more if you buy and read this book, then I can in individual posts here. So read the book and let me know how things go (if you read it, I’m quite sure they’ll go well). 😀

Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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