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Im going to make this as short as I can…
2 years ago I met the love of my life…she is my soulmate and I love her more than anything in the world. We currently live together and have a wonderful relationship. So whats my problem.

I lied about my name to her. I met her online through a dating site. Me and my wife at the time where living under the same roof but had a seperation agreement. I slept in my room and she slepts in her. We had no relationship. I was lonely and wanted to find someone. I met this girl online and it grew into a wonderful relationship. I was finaly able to afford to leave the home and move on with my life. I moved in with my girlfriend and continued a wonderful Life. Why did I lie about my name. Well what woman would date another man still living under the same roof as his ex wife. I have tried so many times before and it never works. It was to protect my daughter from any emabarrasment and to move on…at the time I was dating her I didnt think it would develop into something so wonderful. I know it was wrong and I wanted to tell her But it has been now 2 years since we started dating and I feel its too late. I want to tell her and bring her into my life and show her my friends and family. My father and mother and brother and friends and coworkers all know about her. I just want to bring her into my life and continue on. I want to marry this woman. My divorce comes final January first. I feel I have a 50/50 chance she may stay if I just open up and tell her…but there is that chance she will never forgive me.
For the most part my name and my daughter name are just a lie…all other names and things that happen in my life I have been truthful. She even knows where I work…but never felt complelled to check on my or anthing..I dont know what to do or even yet how to start telling her…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The best thing you can do is to tell her sooner rather than later. She may be your soulmate, but I can guarantee your not hers if you lie to her. 😕 So clear the air now. 😉

Since she already knows you were living with your wife when you met her and started dating her, and she knows that you’re married and she still is willing to live with you, it seems like the issue of your name wouldn’t be a big deal.

Tell her and face the music. The longer you prolong the lie, the worse it will be for you and for her.

Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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