[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let us know how things go.

[christina4sg]

Thank you both for the advices.
I’ll let you know as soon as soon as I do smth. Exams are killing me at this time.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck!

[christina4sg]

Probably gonna meet him tomorrow!
Need some flirting tips please.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Smile at him. Hold the smile. Touch his arm when you talk to him. Laugh at his jokes. Compliment him so that he feels really good about himself (and you). Ask him about himself, and when something is interesting, ask him more questions and tell him how fascinating his life is or how great he is at handling things — basically, flirting means making him feel good about being with you and good about himself in a relationship with you, and being the girlfriend you want to be. 🙂

[christina4sg]

Nothing happend! We were supposed to meet on Saturday but he wrote me earlier and asked me if we could postpone it for Monday, cause he had to leave somewhere and would be back on Monday morning. Well I said: Ok will keep in touch.
Hoping he would write me on Monday to decide the time and place but no text from him all day. So I decided to text him at the evening: you’re not serious at all when dating someone!
He answered me instantly: sorry I have fever and was feeling really sick. So he had forgotten and said sorry again. I replied: well get well soon and I got a ‘thnx’ text back.
Really don’t know what to do! I want to know how he is but I’m not sure if I should write him.
Also have another question: How is it possible boys always think about sex? Do they ever feel smth for someone?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t text him again unless and until you hear from him first. Let him be the one to contact you — which is how you’ll know if he wants to be with you or not. 😉

As for sex, yes, guys think about sex a lot! 🙂

[christina4sg]

Thanks April! Really appreciate your advices.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome.

[Ethan Morales]

This is one of those situations where April Masini’s advice is both brutally honest and exactly what you need to hear because it flips the question back to where the real power lies: you.

Here’s what’s happening. This guy isn’t behaving like someone who’s serious or emotionally invested he’s behaving like someone who enjoys access to you, not connection with you. His pattern is classic:

He disappears when he feels like it.

He reappears when it’s convenient or when he wants a little ego boost.

He throws affectionate words around (“baby,” “darling,” “missed you”) but those words are empty if they’re not followed by action, like actually wanting to see you.

April’s point is so important: instead of trying to decode him, you need to take a breath and ask, “Do I actually want someone who acts like this?”

Because if you’re honest probably not. You want consistency, effort, and genuine interest. This guy’s showing you that he’s inconsistent, evasive, and maybe even a little manipulative (whether he means to be or not).

She’s also right that early dating should be about observation, not obsession. When someone pulls away or acts uncertain, your job isn’t to chase or fix it it’s to take notes. How does he handle communication? How does he treat you when you’re not convenient? That’s the real information about his character.

So here’s my take:

He likely likes you but not enough to invest. You’re a “maybe” to him.

He comes back because he knows you’ll respond it gives him validation.

You’re giving emotional energy to someone who’s not giving it back.

What to do now?
Shift the focus. Don’t block him or confront him dramatically just quietly match his energy. Stop replying immediately. Stop initiating. Let silence do the work. If he values you, he’ll make the effort. If he doesn’t you’ve just freed up your energy for someone who will.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… he doesn’t miss you, he misses the attention. 🙄 that “baby, darling” talk is just bait to keep you waiting while he lives his life. if he really cared, he’d show up, not vanish every few weeks with excuses. you gotta stop letting him pop in and out like bad wifi. you’re the whole lesson not his study date 💅

[Marcus king]

Here’s the thing,when a man really wants you, you don’t have to guess. He shows up. This guy’s giving you just enough to keep you hooked, not enough to build anything real.

If he says he misses you but never makes time to see you, believe his actions, not his words. Stop chasing his attention, let him earn yours.

[PassionSeeker]

Girl he’s not the prize, you are.
When a man senses you waiting, analyzing, wondering, he knows he can show up whenever and still have space in your heart. That’s why he comes and goes because the door is never really closed.
The feminine power move is not revenge or coldness it’s graceful detachment.
Be polite, be warm, but don’t reward his inconsistency with attention.
When you shift from “I hope he texts” to “I wonder who I’ll meet next”, everything changes including your energy, your confidence, and who you attract next.

[Tara]

Here’s your reality check – he doesn’t “want” anything with you he wants the reaction. The validation. The hit of being missed. Stop feeding it.
It’s very clear what’s going on here he’s breadcrumbing you. That’s when someone gives you just enough attention to keep you emotionally hooked but never enough commitment to move anything forward. He’s not “busy.” He’s just not prioritizing you.

If a man says he misses you but doesn’t ask to see you, that’s not affection that’s manipulation. It’s a low-effort way to maintain access to your attention without giving anything real in return. You’re the convenient ego boost between his actual priorities.

You made the first mistake by chasing after the silence. When someone disappears, that’s their answer. By re-engaging, you taught him that he can vanish and you’ll still be there when he feels like playing again.

[Sally]

It’s that mix of sweet words and empty follow-through the kind that keeps you hanging even when you know something feels off. And honestly, guys like this aren’t that complicated once you step back from the excitement.

If he really wanted something real, he wouldn’t disappear for a month at a time. People who miss you don’t vanish. They show up. They make plans. They make space. What he’s giving you is attention, not commitment. It feels good in the moment, but it leaves you confused the second the message thread goes quiet.

Yeah, he might have someone else. Or he might just like the ego boost of knowing you’ll answer when he pops back in. Either way, he’s not choosing you. He’s circling you.
You don’t have to hate him. Just don’t build your heart around someone who only shows up when it’s easy. You deserve steadiness, not this disappearing act.

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