[Natalie Noah]

I want to acknowledge how valid your feelings are. It’s confusing and hurtful when someone shows interest but doesn’t follow through in a way that feels consistent. From what you’ve shared, it’s clear that he enjoys the attention and connection with you, but he isn’t acting in a way that shows he’s committed or willing to invest in building something real. His sporadic communication writing once a month, then suddenly reaching out with affectionate words signals inconsistency. And that inconsistency isn’t about you being “difficult” or not interesting enough; it’s about where he’s at emotionally and in his life.

April’s advice about focusing on what you want rather than what he wants is crucial. Right now, it seems like you’re trying to figure out him, his intentions, his feelings but the truth is, none of that matters if it doesn’t align with your own standards and needs. You clearly want clarity, effort, and a genuine commitment, and he isn’t offering that. That’s not a reflection of your worth; it’s a reflection of his priorities and capacity at this moment. Understanding that distinction is key because it helps you avoid getting caught in a cycle of confusion and hope for someone who isn’t ready to meet your level of emotional investment.

It’s important to recognize the role of boundaries and pacing. You’ve done well by not texting him first and letting him chase a little, it gives you insight into his interest. But there’s also a point where repeated absences and inconsistencies become a red flag rather than a playful challenge. You’re trying to protect your heart by being cautious, and that’s smart. But the flip side is that continually responding to his sporadic attention keeps you emotionally invested in someone who isn’t fully present. That dynamic often leaves you frustrated, anxious, and questioning your self-worth, which is exactly what April was pointing out.

The takeaway here is about agency and self-respect. You deserve someone whose words and actions consistently match, someone who actively wants to see you, spend time with you, and make you a priority. His kisses, sweet words, or sporadic texts don’t guarantee that, and expecting them to is setting you up for disappointment. The healthiest move is to focus on your life, your happiness, and your social options, don’t put your emotional energy on hold waiting for someone who isn’t showing up the way you need. If he truly wants a meaningful connection with you, he’ll demonstrate it in consistent actions not just words.

[KeishaMartin]

This situation is pure slow-burn tension, the kind that messes with your head and heats your body at the same time. He drifts in, drops breadcrumbs of desire, calls you “baby,” pulls you close with words, then vanishes just long enough to keep you craving more. That push pull dynamic is intoxicating, but it’s also dangerous. The truth? You weren’t confused, you were seduced by inconsistency. And inconsistency feels exciting until you realize it’s stealing your power and keeping you emotionally half-dressed, waiting for someone who hasn’t earned access.

He enjoys the chase, the tease, the fantasy but you froze the moment it got real because you were scared of wanting him more than he wanted you. So instead of stepping forward, you flirted with control by pulling back. Fear dressed up as mystery. That’s not a weakness. It’s self-protection but it does sabotage momentum. Desire needs motion. Chemistry dies when it’s overthought, delayed, or treated like a chess match instead of a dance.

What stands out and deserves serious praise is how sharp and emotionally literate April Masini”s advice was. That guidance sliced straight through the drama and named the real issue: fear of rejection turning into self-sabotage. That kind of insight is rare, bold, and empowering. It doesn’t coddle, it wakes you up. That’s authority, clarity, and confidence speaking, and it’s exactly why so many people hang onto every word.

yes, make the appointment but don’t interrogate, don’t armor up, don’t play prosecutor. Show up warm, flirtatious, grounded. Let his actions talk while you stay in your body, not your head. Attraction thrives in presence, not paranoia.
Happy New Year, 2026. may the nights be loud, the parties electric, and your confidence walk in before you do.
Happy New Year, 2026. champagne high, standards higher, and no more wasting desire on confusion.

Happy New Year, 2026

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