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I was in a 4 year long relationship with the man of my dreams, loved him and a big part of me still does. Our relationship was a bit complicated as we came from 2 different religions and my parents was against our dating. However, we still pursued the relationship. 7 months ago he cheated with a work colleague and exactly 2 months later they were married. I was torn to pieces with the news. 2 weeks ago he made contact with me asking to help him as he wants a divorce and im the only person he can trust. Because of my love for him i listened to his problems and tried to advise as best as possible. It’s not in my nature to encourage divorce so i advised him to take some time out and think deeply about his decision. However, in my heart not only because he was my one true love i do believe he can get much better. Their marriage is based on so many obstacles and not small ones either…..1. He started drinking heavily 2. She beats him up 3. They began using drugs together and the most difficult one was that she falsely accused him of molesting his step daughter. He went for a lie detector test to prove his innocence. Im saddened by what his happening to him, and i see the pain in his eyes. However, he’s afraid and will probably be going back to her soon. They’ve been seperated for the past week now. Ive kept our contact very minimal, but even though i thought i have moved on from this. SInce he stepped back into my life i’ve realised that a small part of me wishes to be with him. Please help me, i dont want to hurt…but i also dont want to see him hurt.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

With all due respect: Mind your own business. 😕

His marriage and his divorce are NONE of your business. Stay out of all of it. He’s a drug user, an alcoholic, and you have no idea what he did or didn’t do with his step-daughter. People who are under the influence often behave in ways that they may not “normally”. He’s got legal trouble. He’s got emotional trouble. He’s got social trouble. He’s got health trouble. There is nothing here that is good for you.

Be very happy that you dodged a bullet and he cheated on you and married someone else. Obviously, you didn’t see all of who he was, or you would have left him long ago.

Disconnect from this guy altogether, and move on. Eat more brain food so your mind can tell your heart which way to turn. 😉

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