Being a single parent can be extremely time consuming. She must really have her hands full with a 3 year old, a 9 year old and a 15 year old. The teenage girl can be giving her a run for her money (as some teenagers tend to do normally), and the 3 year old is probably not even in school yet, so she’s not even getting a break while he’s at pre-school. She probably has primary if not full custody of some or all of her children, and maybe even a job, too. It’s no wonder she doesn’t have time to talk about your feelings!
Your boys at ages 10 and 12 are much more independent, and not yet giving you the hassles that teenagers give parents. You may also have partial custody or every other weekend and one night a week — definitely a lot more time on your hands than she has. And you may be wanting more couple time (whether it’s on the phone or in person) than she is able to give you.
My guess is that if and when she has time to date, she wants to have a good time! She doesn’t want to be burdened by extraneous talks about feelings.
So rather than try to get her to open up, my advice is to consider what [i]your[/i] needs are in a relationship. If you can satisfy your needs to talk about your feelings with a friend or relative, and just have a good time when you’re with your girlfriend, then that may be the fix you need. If that doesn’t satisfy your needs, then you’re not compatible with your girlfriend of 3 months, and you should look for a woman to date who has more free time.
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