[michellexmarks]

my boyfriend of two months is leaving for boot camp in january. he broke up with me on wednesday because he explained that he doesn’t want anything that’s going to make him want to stay. so he doesn’t wanna apply for more jobs (because he’s trying to be a cop) and he doesn’t want to be with me because he doesn’t wanna get deeper into our relationship and fall harder for me and then he has to leave. he was coming up with all these scenarios like “what if we do date while i’m away for 6 months and i come back and i’m a completely different person..or what if these next 5 months are miserable because we’re arguing all the time because i’m distant?” he said there’s too many “what ifs” and he always wonders if he’s being a jerk for dating me and holding me back when we know the inevitable is coming and that he’s leaving. i told him what hurts the most is that it is worth it to me to be with him for the next 5 months and get hurt, but for him it’s not. i can’t explain the way i feel, i’m so hurt and upset. he still wants to talk to me and hang out, and i said “did you even have feelings for me?” and he said “of course i did..i still do..i just think this is the best decision for both of us.”

i have such a mix of emotions and i’m trying to figure out if he even cared? did he have feelings for me and he really is doing this for the both of us? or is this just a bunch of bs? can you please explain this situation?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He broke up with you. You’re hurt. You’re disappointed. That’s normal. Now, you’re trying to analyze the relationship so you can hold onto it and not feel sad. 😳 That won’t work.

My advice is to accept the break up and move on. Break ups are painful, but they’re ways to move on in your own life and find someone who is ready to be with you and who wants to be with you. 😀 You deserve that, so focus on Mr. Right, not the guy who just dumped you. 😉

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[michellexmarks]

i just want to know if it’s possible that he did have feelings for me and that he is being honest that he wants to do the best for us, or do you think this is bs and if he really had feelings for me he would wanna stay together at least until he actually leaves in 5 months?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Please stop creating new accounts and posting the same questions over and over, after I’ve answered you.

I’ve already answered your questions here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=214411&p=234002&hilit=january#p234002[/url] and…..

also here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=223378&p=243601&hilit=army#p243601[/url]. 🙁

[Missladyt_17]

Sweetie, it is time for you to move on and how he felt or if he ever felt for you is unimportant. You cannot make someone love you or stay with you. He is doing what is best for him and it seems that he was trying to be honest with you. Why don’t you focus on what is best for you. Yes, he was your man, but he is not the only man in this world. Deal with the breakup and move forward, you will find someone that will love you and that love will be returned by you.

Move forward and be happy. Life is just to short for what ifs and why nots.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Well said, [b]Missladyt_17[/b]. 🙂

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